Missing a friend

LegacyUser

I have known a really good friend for a few years.
Unfortunately her behaviour towards me has changed abruptly since she is no longer single.
I used to be her only single female friend in Dublin, as most of her friends and her sister were all in relationships, and her other single friends went home to the country nearly every week-end.
She wanted to meet someone, and she was always suggesting to go out together at the week-ends.
I went out with her most week-ends, even though I am not too fond of loud pubs and clubs, but still I enjoyed her company and always had a good time when out with her.
Since she got together with her fella (by the way, he is a mutual friend and I think he is a great guy and I am happy that they finally got together), she has abruptly stopped initiating all contact with me.
If I don’t contact her to ask her how she is, she never contacts me.
She is aware that I have been ill recently, but still has not contacted me to see if I was better.
When I contact her, she keeps reminding me how busy she is.
It seems she never has any time.
Never, not even for a 30 minutes chat over a coffee during the week!
I am busy too, but I value friendships and always make time for friends.
We are not teenagers by the way, both in our thirties.
I haven’t talked to her about this, about how this has upset me; but in fairness I have not been able to talk to her about anything, as she says she has never any time.
Now I am asking myself, is she really a friend?
Or has just been using me as a mate to go out clubbing with, in the hope of meeting a fella?
Shall I just give up on her and resign myself to the fact that she is not one of my friends?
Or how can I possibly raise this issue with her?

fasty

This always happens. It's happening to me right now. A friend of mine's off with his latest and I won't hear from him until that ends. It's just how some people operate and you can let it get to you or not.

She is your friend but her priorities are different now that she's not single. Don't raise the issue with her directly, just ask her to meet again and just comment that you haven't seen her in ages and could do with some company.

bluecell99

No,she is not a friend.She is a selfish user.The clincher is when you say you have been ill and no contact from her.This is unforgiveable and disgusting.Happened me also in the past.

Please try to forget her and make new friends;not easy I know but is very possible.Smile and engage with people and dont rule out new interests and hobbies where you can meet people.

Before you know it you will not even think about her and will be stronger when it comes to spotting the users and the false ,me - fein people out there.

Believe me,make no more effort,put it behind you and move on.There are nice people .

starchild

its horrible when this happens to you, some people just fall head over heels for someone and all their time is consumed by them, its good for them but unfortunatly its not nice for you. i would be pretty certain your friend will be back on scene before you know it, prob not to anywhere near the same extent though