Dating 2 girls?

Copper23

Hi all,
Could I have advice on this?

I unusally have a lot of problems getting girls, I just can't meet the people I want, or any at all infact.

Ok, so I met two girls in close succession. I reconned theres no problem in that, I hardly know either, its fair enough to go ahead and meet them.

Its just how long before its better to stop that?

Like, one girl is younger, she's a bit crazy in a good way like, has the craic and is great to meet up with and go drinking, or whatever. To be honest she's a couple years younger, so I don't think I'd see anything longterm there but I'm having fun and she is and she doesn't seem to want anything serious either.

The other girl is same age as myself. She's a little more mature, probably a little more toned down than the other girl. She's great.

I'm not overall sure what I want, like, if I want to push for a relationship with either. I probably don't be I enjoy going out with them and doing stuff. I guess my problem is I usually have no women around, now I'm finally having some fun I don't wanna give it up. People will say I'm selfish. I don't wanna be like that.

If either suggested a serious relationship then I'd have to confront this but right now its still kinda casual and stuff so it seems ok. I don't know. what do ye recon?

AARRRGH

I think it is likely - if you continue seeing both girls - that they will both develop feelings for you. This inevitably means you will have to hurt one of them.

Play it by ear and if you notice something like this happening, do the right thing and make your choice so the other girl can move on with her life.

Barracudaincork

Define dating.

Are you literally meeting up for a drink etc and going home alone or are you getting intimate with these girls?

If its just drinks etc then date away.

Once you get intimate esp if your having sex, you need to decide what you want/which girl you want or tell them both and let them decide if they want to be part of it or not.

There is nothing wrong with what your doing as long as your all adults who know what the story is, as its up to each person to decide if they want to be a part of it or not. Its only when you lie to one girl about seeing the other girl etc that it gets dodgy and you start looking like a you know what.

Dublin_Gunner

Nothing wrong with what you're doing at all - have done it myself on a few occasions - in fact, when I started seeing my current partner of 2 years, I was seeing someone else also for about 2 months, she did know though.

I think if you can handle seeing them both, at least for a little while, you 'll soon get an idea for which one you're after, and able to make an informed decision.

If you want the craziness of the younger one, or the more mature outlook of the older, your choice is made. If you can't decide yet, see both for a little while longer until you've made your mind up.

Be warned though - don't leave it too long, or you'll begin to realise that all of a sudden you're in 2 relationships that have both gotten more serious, and you'll find yourself between a rock and a hard place, and could end up losing both.

tolteq

if ur lookin for fun fun go with the younger girl

looking for something serious go with the other girl

a teenage bimbo can wreck ur head after like enough time


i was friends with two girls. you know my head fancied one girl and my heart fancied the other girl. in the end guess which one i went with. dont cognitivise your love life. do what u feel.

Copper23

Ok, I've only seen both a few times, hooked up with one. Is likely with the other but the loigistics were wrong when I was with her.

To be honest its so long since I was really with anyone I just wanna ahve some fun. I don't want to fall for he first girl I meet cos I'm useless at meeting girls, if I just go for the first girl who likes me I'll just end up in the same horrible position when it ends.

I wanna have some fun, I like qualities of both girls but don't want anything serious. The younger one appears not to either, no signs from the older girl but she might be if things went well who knows....

Theres no signs or talks of relationships right now. Am I wrong to like the confidence boost? Spent over a yea feeling horrible about myself and only now I feel a little better cos I can't be all that bad if these girls think I'm alright. Need that little boost for a bit to get me back on track.

Both, nice girls, sure a relationship might develop I just dont wanna jump into the first thing that comes along.

As long as you are honest with all concerned then things should be ok. If either of them start getting serious and then find out they might not be happy with you at all.

I had pretty much the exact same situation 2 years ago and I was completely open from the start. As things happened I ended up in a relationship with both and now we live together.

This is not for everyone of course, but honest from the outset was, and still is, the key to everything.