Cosmetic surgery advice

Jay Pentatonic

Hi everyone,
I've got a bit of a problem.
Basically, my brother had an accident when he was little & now it's left him with a slight facial disfigurement. This no doubt led to him being seriously bullied in school and graduating with his confidence shattered.

Now, halfway through taking a year off, he hasn't really gotten anywhere in life, and I hate seeing him like this.

I'd REALLY like to help him with this before he goes to college in Sep, but I haven't a clue about any Cosmetic surgery organisations, I hear there's one in Kildare street, but I'm not sure if it's a good place or anything.

Any info would be greatly appreciated,
Thanks a million

JuliusCaesar

Start with your GP. He should be able to reccomend a good plastic surgeon. If its really interfering with his life he should be able to get the surgery free on the HSE.

Zaph

You should research the whole area off cosmetic surgery very carefully before deciding anything as there are a number of practitioners that are not accredited by the irish Association of Plastic Surgeons. You'll find more information here and here. As already mentioned, speaking to your GP is probably the best first step.

Remember folks that we're not permitted to provide medical advice on Boards, but I'm leaving this thread open so that people can share their experiences with the OP should they wish. Please also bear in mind Irish libel laws which hold Boards responsible for anything you write, so no gratuitous badmouthing of individuals or clinics. Thanks.

Reesy

Hmmm, OP, this reads like you're thinking of offering CS to your bro without him asking for it or saying his disfigurement is an issue. Coupla points:

- You're assuming (if I read it right) the link between the disfigurement & the bullying. Good looking people get bullied too, so beware assuming causality.
- I fear your bro could gather from such an offer of CS that you think he's ugly & need to fix himself physically, & feel under pressure to comply to (re)gain your approval. Not good, obviously.
- If it is an issue for him, then I'd humbly suggest that counselling for him around accepting & loving what & who he actually is might help loads. It did for me.

So fair play to you for trying to help your bro out, but can I suggest you tread carefully? I'd humbly suggest you talk (actually, I mean listen) to your bro about his life as he sees it, and just seek to understand, if he'll share with you. Then (if appropriate) ask him how you can help. Just listen, don't suggest. Then decide.

I know, I'm suggesting something quite different from your brave, creative proposal. Good luck.