I need advice! Please as much as possible

ConfusedSheikra

ok so i work with this girl we are the same age, however outside of work id never see her , i find her very attractive and we share similar interests. She does compliment my body like 'omg your so toned' etc. and does constantly tease me with 'you know you think im great' and ' you know you want this'. In conversation she tries to assess my type but then also does tell me when she finds other older men attractive. i find it all very confusing. She went to the trouble of getting my number from a co worker, and even had an excuse to do so, but she'll only text me after i text her, recently she even said i was cool just out of the blue, she has also come to my defence in a few instances... I find her to be generally just flirty but then i dont know what she is like outside of work...

so theres my problem... what should i do??? Does she really like me?? How can i find out her true thoughts? I really am confused...

Wibbs

OK beyond the possible work/relationship minefield...

Ask her out. Bite the bullet. See what she says. Shes seems keen enough, though could just be winding you up for her own ego, but so what? If she says yes? Result. If she says no? Still a result as you will know what's what. If you take the position that it doesn't matter either way at this stage it won't matter either way at this stage.

SunInDublin

I agree with Wibbs, no point waiting around and asking yourself is it this, is it that...go for itand ak her out, if you are interested in her that is !!!

You might deeply just like the flirt at work and thats it, sure she flatters your ego i can see that, and im a girl so i know what shes doing!

First off i thought, oh i bet shes young!!!

So again, if you're interested in dating her then ask her out, if not, enjoy the flirt at work, makes the days more interesting!!;)

PS. what out bout dating someone from work tho, doesnt work out could be drama!

shaywest

i think she was on last week posting the same questions about YOU!;)

Wibbs

shaywest please read the charter of this forum about off topic unhelpful posting. Thank you

snowy2008

what is she saying in the texts, is she in today?

Nervous Wreck

She's obv interested. Ask her out.

NoQuarter

OP if you cant manage to put 1 + 1 together from all those hints then you shouldnt bother!!

Get a grip man, bite the bullet and ask the girl out, if your shot down at least she'll respect your balls for asking!!

Oryx

ConfusedSheikra wrote: »

so theres my problem... what should i do???

Sounds to me like she has done everything bar lie prostrate on your desk, how can you not have noticed... SHES INTERESTED! She hasnt even been subtle about it. Ask her out!

Does she really like me??

She seems to see something in you she wants to know more about. But being a normal girl who doesnt want a possible knockback, she wont come out and say that. Again. Ask her out and find out more about her.

How can i find out her true thoughts?

Unless youve a good grasp of mindreading... ask her. Or better still, dont worry about her true feelings. Get her to meet up with you for a drink and just chat and see if you have a rapport. Dont worry about anything else, just see if you both enjoy each others company outside of work. If its going anywhere, it will just progress naturally.

I really am confused...

It just sounds like you cant believe shes possibly interested in you. But from what youve said here the signs are there. Whats to loose by asking her out (as long as it wont make work awkward)? Start the ball rolling. You know, what doesnt kill you makes you stronger, fortune favours the brave, and all that stuff.

gabbygirlgavin

shes testing the water.... altho there is the whole 48 hour friend zone thing! Just ask her for a date, something relaxed, nothing too fancy cuz youl freak with the pressure. Remember, in the words of a friend i work with, dont s##t on your door step.... rumours shall fly.

shaywest

Wibbs wrote: »

shaywest please read the charter of this forum about off topic unhelpful posting. Thank you

i was just trying to make the point that she is probably thinking exactly the same thoughts about the o.p.
sorry if it came out wrong

Declanp71

Okay i think u are thinking about it to much, its obvious there is something there, honestly u should just ask her out and if she says no then she says no.. but then remember if she does say no, will things be awkward between ye in work? and if so at least she knows how u feel.. But remember u only live once and life is to short for what ifs.. And at the end of the day if you ask her face to face( not by text ) she will say yes, I promise u that.

and if all else fails check out the link...

http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/2005/sep/25/biography.society

gabbygirlgavin

wow, handy.
Shame about the evil games women n men play...
have u decided wat your gonna do yet OP?

ConfusedSheikra

well when we'd text it would be bout anythin and everythin, although a few weeks ago i was out, fairly drunk and didnt remember what id said, when i asked her the next day she immediatly replied that i said i really liked her but it turned out to be a wind up by her, though i probably could of...

Iam not in work again after the weekend but im sure she'll be there...

Work could be a bit awkward if things didnt work out though...and if i asked her out and she said no, the embarassment would be a major killer...

whats this 48 hour friend zone thing???

this is one very evil game...her nature to me generally just seems to be soo flirty

I still have no clue what to do, everyone is saying i should go for it jus bite the bullet, fortune favours the brave etc. but the embarassment for me of being knocked back in work & shes not someone i would be easily able to avoid in work if everythin went pear shaped...

Dammit i really need to do some serious thinking...

ConfusedSheikra

LegacyUser

shes interested or shes just being a complete bitch.

LegacyUser

Just go for it it obvious she really likes you