I'm so horny

bubblewrap

Does anyone have this problem?

Basically, I have a much higher sex drive than my bf, don't get me wrong, I have my fair share of sex but some weeks we hardly have it, other weeks we are doing it every day/night.

I say stuff like can we have sex, my bf hates that, he says I should get him in the mood and try it on, I sometimes do that, I start to play with him etc then he says no, he is tired/not in the mood...I can't win.

When he wants it, I give it. When I want it, he only sometimes says yes.

What do I do? I feel so rejected.

Mr. Incognito

If only all women were like you.

I guess you've just got different sex drives. It happens.

Your boyfriend is really the one you should be discussing this with- you won't get any great advice here me thinks and I hope they leave your pm inbox alone.

Lollipops23

yup,my prob being that my poor aul BF has a fulltime job that's pretty strenuous and i'm a bum student:D

you go through phases of hornyness, you can't expect him to do it every time you want it. if it was the other way around and he was expecting sex all the time you'd feel pretty annoyes i'm sure!calm down and concentrate on ensuring there's plenty of intimacy in the sex you do have....and maybe invest in some saucy lingerie(or a rabbit!!)

SarahSassy

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

If only all women were like you.

You have obviously been with the wrong women

OP, its about give and take (literally) and he is only taking and giving when it suits him which is not on...

He seems to be contradictory with regard you taking control but he also just sounds like a moody and contradictory yoke...

I think I would be playing him at his own game for while to let him know how it feels to be rejected.

LegacyUser

next time he reckons hes tired, start playing solo in front of him, and bobs ur uncle he wont be able to resist!
FACT!

Mr. Incognito

I think I would be playing him at his own game for while to let him know how it feels to be rejected

Sarah, I've seen you give some fantastic advice around here but this is not one of them.

So to "teach him a lesson" for his natural sex drive he can't help she should drive a wedge between them by withdrawing sex, the one thing she wants more of?

Right.

Look OP, sex drives wax and wane. Just be open with the other half. He can't read your mind and tell him what's going on.

Terodil

SarahSassy wrote: »

OP, its about give and take (literally) and he is only taking and giving when it suits him which is not on...

Yes... in principle.

Except that men are not dildos that are always stiff. When the mood isn't right and stress is high and whatever, he may just be no good.

SarahSassy wrote: »

I think I would be playing him at his own game for while to let him know how it feels to be rejected.

This... rofl.

Are you for real?

Have you got ANY understanding of how men, more specifically, arousal works? You are talking about this as if he was a toy that just decided to malfunction and ignore the push of the button on a whim.

:rolleyes:

OP, have some patience with your bf. If he's not in the mood, it really may have NOTHING to do with him not feeling for you. Especially if he's stressed, has worries on his mind etc. things may not work out as intended. Review his diet if necessary, at utmost need suggest a visit to the GP, tell him ONCE how much it bothers you, but stop putting pressure on him, it's definitely not going to help. It's counterproductive.

Zulu

SarahSassy wrote: »

I think I would be playing him at his own game for while to let him know how it feels to be rejected.

Worst advice. Ever.

"Playing games" is not conductive to a successful relationship.
Talking to your partner, however, is.

Beruthiel

OK bubblewrap.
What's this, your sixth, seventh thread? I've lost count.
Either way, I've told you many times to get yourself professional help, we can't help you.

I'm going to have to ban you for your own good.