Dazed and Confused

Super-Rush

Right this is a bit of a long one...About a year ago i met a girl (through mutual friends) and straight away i fancied her, it was a definite physical attraction as she is simply stunning.
I liked her from afar for months and months (she is wayyyyyyyy out of my league) and we became friends.
We added each other on Bebo and eventually exchanged numbers and used to text each other on and off. One day in a conversation i let it slip that i fancied her. She never said she fancied me back or anything and i was kinda gutted (wishful thinking) that she didnt have the same feelings for me but you can't mourn losing something you never had so it didnt bother me too much.
That was christmas time and we used to see each other once a week and she acted like nothing had happened and our relatiionship stayed the same.

She started seeing this guy and i didnt see her for a few weeks until the night they finished. She asked me to call her the next day, but i forgot and she called me instead and we ended up spending 6 hours on the phone.

During that conversation she told me that she had liked me all along but didnt say anything because one of her friends fancied me aswell and she didnt want to thread on her toes. I was over the moon. I've wanted this for the last 12 months.
Here's the but part......

BUT

from talking to her that night she told me she wasn't planning on a relationship with any man for a good while and she was planning on going out and pulling and having a laugh. Fair play its her choice. Problem is i'm looking for a relationship and to settle down and i know she's not, and having thought about it i shouldn't expect her to want to settle down with me..reason...she is 19 and i'm 28 next week.

So i decided i would just let it be and didn't contact her or see her for a couple for weeks until Thursday gone by. We exchanged a few saucy texts and when we saw each other i kinda went a bit weak at the knees. We had a good laugh and we ended up kissing each other goodnight two or three times.

I told my mate that i wasn't gpnna pursue a relationship or fool around with her because i want to settle down. He told me to have some fun with her while i was looking for someone and she might possibly want to do the same after a few weeks.

I know if i do that i will end up getting hurt but if i dont i might regret not taking a risk. I've wanted to be withe her for so long...ahhhhhh

Thanks for your patience and hope it all made sense

amybabes

in my honest opinion, i think shes messin u around.....wtf, when u said u liked her if she really liked u she would hav responded, any normal girl would....and she like u but she doesnt want to giv it a chance wit u now??
ah here....come off it love like!
28....19?? can u not find someone ur own age!? just bein honest wit u! if u think u can "have a little fun" as ur friend suggested wit her without gettin hurt or let down when she loses interest in a little fooling around when shes bored then by all means go for it, but i think ur onto a bad one there.....sorry dude!:(

Super-Rush

amybabes wrote: »

in my honest opinion, i think shes messin u around.....wtf, when u said u liked her if she really liked u she would hav responded, any normal girl would....and she like u but she doesnt want to giv it a chance wit u now??
ah here....come off it love like!
28....19?? can u not find someone ur own age!? just bein honest wit u! if u think u can "have a little fun" as ur friend suggested wit her without gettin hurt or let down when she loses interest in a little fooling around when shes bored then by all means go for it, but i think ur onto a bad one there.....sorry dude!:(

Of course i can but i cant help who i like

amybabes

ok but realistically u cant expect a 19 yr old to want 2 settle down!! different life goals etc. jez shes only been allowed into pubs etc legally for a year.

but apart from d age thing, she sounds like she takin d piss, dunno why us girls do it but we do....sounds like shes bored, keepin u on the long finger in case she fancies some company/if noone better comes along....otherwise if she liked u she'd be all over u like a rash when she heard that u liked her 2. dont waste ur time buddy!