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question for the ladies

  • 01-05-2009 10:09pm
    #1
    poisonated
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,277 ✭✭✭


    Hey
    just a quick question.How much of a turn off is lack of confidence.If someone is quite handsome but gets really nervous in certain situations,how much of a turn off is that.This person Im thinking of is 18 and is a nice guy but has an anxiety problem
    Thanks for your help


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  • #2
    Tinchy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 95 ✭✭Tinchy


    can you give us an example of a situation?
    and how nervous, i.e shaking etc..


  • #3
    minidazzler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,739 ✭✭✭✭minidazzler


    Is this person you or someone you are not sure whether you should be attracted to?


  • #4
    Black Swan
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 47,528 CMod ✭✭✭✭Black Swan


    poisonated wrote: »
    just a quick question.How much of a turn off is lack of confidence.If someone is quite handsome but gets really nervous in certain situations,how much of a turn off is that.This person Im thinking of is 18 and is a nice guy but has an anxiety problem
    Are the "certain situations" pertaining to women? Does the lad exhibit "confidence" in other social situations like school or work, but only lacks confidence with women? Some women like shy men when interrelating with them, who are otherwise successful in other circumstances. But if he lacks confidence in most things, not just with women, then that might be seen as immaturity, which can be a turn-off for many.


  • #5
    staker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,677 ✭✭✭staker


    good answer Blue Lagoon.
    OP hasn't left too much info only a vaguely immature outlook. i apologise in advance.


  • #6
    illiop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 682 ✭✭✭illiop


    As everyone else has already stated, it's not really clear what you mean but if you just mean he's just generally quiet and shy well then personally I wouldn't like it but I wouldn't say thats a rule, I have one friend who just loves shy boys which is hilarious because she's crazy and tends to scare them a bit.


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  • #7
    poisonated
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,277 ✭✭✭poisonated


    oh yeah sorry,I should have being more specific.This guy is a friend of mine.He doesnt seem to be getting anywhere with women but is a nice guy who suffers from self esteem issues.He thinks that everyone hates him and he is quite shy when talking to people that he doesnt know.People say he is reaonabely attractive but just has no confidence when talking to strangers.He is a nice guy when people get to know him.He was asking me for advice but I didnt know what to say to him.
    Thanks


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