Are attractive single women over 30 non existant?

donster79

It certainly seems that way.

drunkmonkey

there's loads of them the last time I looked....try dublin allways plenty there...

CDfm

You find them when you least expect it.

Are you looking in the wrong places perhaps?

Wibbs

How is this a relationship issue? Expand on your original post or this gets locked(and not in the good way).

ecdl07

Wwll our irish teacher is 36 and she's one of the sexiest people i know! She's a big turn on for all the students!

Nevyn

Lots of them, ones that you are attracted too?
Who knows as you have not quantified what you consider attractive.

John Mason

LOL - well you obviously havent met me or any of my friends, work colleagues, relations

you might want to take off the blindfold and have a proper look around. we are the ones who are having real fun being comfortable in our skins and not caring what people think

otwb

Depends on what your definition of 'attractive' is. From this side I could ask the same about where all the men are gone!

pink fluffy bunny

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

LOL - well you obviously havent met me or any of my friends, work colleagues, relations

you might want to take off the blindfold and have a proper look around. we are the ones who are having real fun being comfortable in our skins and not caring what people think

But your not single.

There are lots of all sorts. Your not looking hard enough op.

John Mason

When did i get married? nobody told me?

star-pants

donster79 wrote: »

It certainly seems that way.

Well I'm nearly 26 & single! lol
Honestly though, there are plenty of wonderful women in their 20s/30s/40s etc, you just haven't found the right one yet.

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

When did i get married? nobody told me?

Aren't you in a relationship?

Latchy

Losdsa 40 something women out there OP .Your just not looking in the right place .

Eh .......you did say 40 somthings didn't ya ?

( were's me glass's )

Katgurl

I would have thought I fit the bill but as previous posters said you haven't quantified what you find attractive. Also, I certainly have a number of very goodlooking single friends too that are smart and happy people. Mind you, less are single now than when we were 23... And I / we were probably in marginally better shape then if i'm being totally honest. But we wear better clothes & are a lot more chilled out certainly when it comes to interacting with guys and in general.

I really don't know what to say to you, its a hard one to answer. If you find can't find an attractive woman in her 30's why don't you try dating one who is older / younger?

CDfm

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

LOL - well you obviously havent met me or any of my friends, work colleagues, relations

you might want to take off the blindfold and have a proper look

Great Advice translation - you probably need to look further than nightclubs and get around more- dont be afraid to ask friends relations etc if invited somewhere - are other singles gonna be there.

Try this weekend to check out activities in your area maybe even something like hillwalking or local events etc.Dont just sit in watching the rugby.

Rumour has it PFB is neither pink or a bunny so if you find anyone matching that description they are unlikely to be related ro PFB.:p

Millie

I would consider myself & my friends in this bracket & would have been thinking where we're all the great boys/men until recently.
However I met my chappie a few months ago but I know of loads of great single women in their 30's.
It's just a matter of being in the right place at the right time I guess.

catratbat

I was at a party a few xmases ago. Plenty attractive single folk... One bloke there was clearly well into one blonde alpha-female type who was there with another bloke. Later he bemoans the fact that there are no 'nice single women' any more i.e. there wasn't a bevy of blonde alpha-females for him to pick and chose from...

I'd love to have just said...'Aw bless, there are... you just don't feckin fancy 'em...':D:p

barbiegirl

Oh I know loads of them, however from what I have onserved, the single guys want a gorgeous girlfriend, with no baggage, emotional, financial, kids wise or other, even if they themselves look like quasi modo and have 2 divorces and 12 kids.

MyPeopleDrankTheSoup

Not many in Ireland, loads in the States.

waraf

donster79 wrote: »

It certainly seems that way.

You're obviously not drinking enough

Wibbs

waraf please read this forums charter about unhelpful posting.

LegacyUser

unfortunately, yes this is the case. once the make up is off and they're not dolled up, there's not really much to look at in the over 30's. the worst of the lot are the ones who are over 30 and trying just that little bit too hard to be a teenager in the way she dresses. of course they all have personality, and that goes a lot further than any looks ever will

waraf

Wibbs wrote: »

waraf please read this forums charter about unhelpful posting.

oops sorry mod

DamoKen

barbiegirl wrote: »

Oh I know loads of them, however from what I have onserved, the single guys want a gorgeous girlfriend, with no baggage, emotional, financial, kids wise or other, even if they themselves look like quasi modo and have 2 divorces and 12 kids.

Funny I'm in my 30's and I've observed the exact same except substitute guys with girls. That's generalisations for you :rolleyes:.

With most single male friends I know the mandatory gorgeous requirement went out the window when they grew up.

All that really matters is if I'm attracted to the girl, couldn't give a toss what anyone else thinks as long as I'm happy with her. Mind you I've always been like that. Most blokes I know to whom mates opinions mattered years back now feel the same way. Not a case of standards dropping, more a case of growing up and realising what you want may differ from general perception.

John Mason

Unregistered wrote: »

unfortunately, yes this is the case. once the make up is off and they're not dolled up, there's not really much to look at in the over 30's. the worst of the lot are the ones who are over 30 and trying just that little bit too hard to be a teenager in the way she dresses. of course they all have personality, and that goes a lot further than any looks ever will

I appreciate that you say, it's the green scales that i find very off putting.

OP, how old are you ?

donster79

30 myself. I just dont see or know any 30ish single girls that I would be in any way attracted to.

And I go out all the time, do all sorts of and am involved with lots of different things. In fact girls in this age bracket dont seem to go out much at all, where they the hell are they?? And when you do come across ones that you find nice they are invariably married/in a long term relationship.

SarahSassy

There are loads and I know plenty of them. The single female 30-somethings I know are good looking, smart, not afriad of sex, financially secure, well travelled and very social...

This is pretty much in direct comparison with the single 30-something males I know who are stuck in a rut, in the same barstool every weekend, chasing 18 year olds and looking down their nose at the single 30-something females...

LegacyUser

OP perhaps you're living in a small place where people settle down young (and perhaps let themselves go a bit?)

Dub is full of attractive 30s chicks. Gigs rather than nightclubs might be a good place to find them. You'll also find huge gangs of over 30s at festivals these days. You just need to get out there. Don't think of where to find a particular age group, it doesn't really work that way these days - apart from the nightclub scene which is still pretty young.

Of course if you are in a small place with few suitable chicks - Nobody says you have to date in your own age group (I assume thats what you're doing?)

I'm over 30 and while I've gained a few wrinkles I've also gained cheekbones - theres alot to be said for bone structure and it comes out more as you age, but whatever you're into. Not single now but I believe I had more men in my early/mid 30s than I ever did in my 20s. But of course people age at different rates. Alot of it is to do with attitude.

LegacyUser

donster79 wrote: »

30 myself. I just dont see or know any 30ish single girls that I would be in any way attracted to.

From your opening post and this quote above, you sound like the sort who loses his patience when he doesn't get what he wants. So maybe you're not very attractive either? I'm in my thirties and, from the way you talk, you don't sound very appealing to me.

Dudess

Unregistered wrote: »

unfortunately, yes this is the case. once the make up is off and they're not dolled up, there's not really much to look at in the over 30's.

Yes, every last one of them because you've seen them all. By the way, why are you unregistered?
Also "no make-up = nothing spectacular" applies to most females really, no matter what age they are...

OP, I know several hot single women in their early 30s and they look after themselves a lot better now than five or ten years ago. They are single because they were in serious relationships in their 20s and decided to end things as these relationships weren't for them.

Wibbs

Go for women under 30 if that's an issue for you. It's hardly a magic number anyway. I know women at 33 that look better than a heluva lot of women of 23, regardless of makeup. Indeed offhand the best body I can think of belongs to a woman of 32. Cartoon eyes out on stalks time.

littlesurfer

i cant belive what i'm reading...!!!! i'm only 27...well almost..but have plenty of friends in the 30's brackets who i would readily refer to as attractive. I'm single myself and in three years dont plan on being any less attractive..

...its finding an single, attractive, decent man thats the problem!

...I do think dublin is the easiest place to find people though. I used to go on dates all the time and since I moved to galway i've had two disasterous dates...**shiver***

John Mason

sounds like you havent admitted to yourself that you are now 30 and are still chasing little girls.

i have to be completely honest with you, from your post you come across as having a bad attitude none of single friend's in their 30's would put up with your kind of attitude.

may the problem isnt everyone else but it is you ? you should have a good look at yourself and see what the problem is.

i know loads and loads, so single woman in their 20's, 30's and 40's.

Gemini Sister

I can't really see what the OP is on about.

There isn't any one moment when someone goes FRUMP! and the parties over. Throw the average 33yr old into a line up of 29yr olds and you might well not be able to pick her out.

I can't quite understand your problem. If you are genuinely looking for cool girls in their 30s then try hanging out anywhere except cheesy nightclubs.
But if you only fancy girls in their 20s then why is this an issue? Do you feel like you can't pull them anymore? If you believe that then you make it true.

Nobody has issues with who you fancy or don't fancy. If you're not into older chicks thats fine, it won't stop the other boys. I'm 34 and I wouldn't choose a partner older than 40 or younger than 30 (unless he was really hot!) but that doesn't stop my mates from chasing young lads and I've no issues with it.

Your personal preferences won't stop us old gals scoring, though obviously not with you

CDfm

Gemini Sister wrote: »

I can't really see what the OP is on about.
Throw the average 33yr old into a line up of 29yr olds and you might well not be able to pick her out.

Of course you could, she would be more stylish, elegant and body confidant:)

Katgurl

Well what's confusing me OP is if you don't find women over 30 attractive why do you want to date them? There's nothing to prevent you dating a 22 year old.

I really don't see the problem.

Gemini Sister

CDfm wrote: »

Of course you could, she would be more stylish, elegant and body confidant:)

Charmer!

estar

my friends and i only improve with age. what we gain in wrinkles we also gain in interest, maturity, skills, confidance, better in bed, won't wreck your head with silly insecurities (hopefully), knows what they want, knows how to get it, organised, experienced, well connected, financially secure, well read and travelled................and not as easy to impress...........

perhaps thats whats turning off the OP

Dudess

I find it bizarre the way people are talking about early 30s in terms of reaching a really old age - all this talk of wrinkles etc (just makes me think of an elderly person) even by the people who are being critical of the OP. This is early 30s we're talking about, not early 50s. I ain't old looking, none of my friends or acquaintances are... in fact I think we're all looking pretty darn well, so it's not denial here.
I know the early stages of ageing have kicked in generally - no denying that - but when did that become on a par with middle-aged dowdiness...?

star-pants

Agree with Dudess,
my mothers 51(dont tell her she'll kill me) and people have said she only looks 35. I think she looks young too.
Heck I'm turning 26 this year and someone thought I was only 21/22. I know a lot of men & women in their 20s/30s/40s/50s who are attractive. Noones old until you're like.... 70 or something!

CDfm

Dudess wrote: »

I ain't old looking, none of my friends or acquaintances are... in fact I think we're all looking pretty darn well, so it's not denial here.
I know the early stages of ageing have kicked in generally - no denying that - but when did that become on a par with middle-aged dowdiness...?

It isnt Dudess- its these wans posting that I feel sorry for - ya know mid twenties dressing like tweenies ,cant hold a conversation or a fork and dont know how to dress:D

Sweeping generalisations I know but.....

star-pants wrote: »

Agree with Dudess,
my mothers 51(dont tell her she'll kill me) and people have said she only looks 35. I think she looks young too.
Heck I'm turning 26 this year and someone thought I was only 21/22

Dont tell me you borrow her clothes. Shame.

littlesurfer wrote: »

i cant belive what i'm reading...!!!! i'm only 27...well almost..but have plenty of friends in the 30's brackets who i would readily refer to as attractive. I'm single myself and in three years dont plan on being any less attractive..

...I do think dublin is the easiest place to find people though. I used to go on dates all the time and since I moved to galway i've had two disasterous dates...**shiver***

Cant you just lie and say you are 30. Lots of women lie about their ages.

The Corinthian

"Are attractive single women over 30 non existant?"

No, there are plenty of them. They're just out of your league.

TBH, I don't understand how this is a personal issue for the OP.

SunInDublin

Guess thats my question !!

I agree with few of the posts but then again it shouldn't be a matter of age really, if you meet someone you like then think should happens, or not!

I have just turned 36 and to be honest never been interested in anyone over 30!! oh boy, what did i say, i can see the post coming in response to that!;)
I am part of those girls that are lucky to look a lot younger, all the guys that i meet are all in the range of 24-29 and im not doing school exit by the way, going to casual normal pub but just like someone said before it seems that older guys, over 28, are either in long relationships or chasing the young ones cos they are freaked about a girl in mid 30s thinking she will want kids and marriage before July 1st! i was thinking Sptember but oh well;)

Im happy where i am on life, no kids and happy with it, if it happens then great, if it doesnt good too!! theres adoption, etc..finding someone i would have a blast with is more important!

SO to come back to your post, where do you go out to say that cos from what i see theres more woman in this country than men so you should be in luck!!
Im not from here so obviously culture chock for me on !

Good luck !

LegacyUser

So whats the general view here...not too many hot single women >30 or yes loads and loads of hot, available single women >30???

CDfm

Unregistered wrote: »

So whats the general view here...not too many hot single women >30 or yes loads and loads of hot, available single women >30???

yes

LegacyUser

SunInDublin wrote: »

Guess thats my question !!

I agree with few of the posts but then again it shouldn't be a matter of age really, if you meet someone you like then think should happens, or not!

I have just turned 36 and to be honest never been interested in anyone over 30!! oh boy, what did i say, i can see the post coming in response to that!;)
I am part of those girls that are lucky to look a lot younger, all the guys that i meet are all in the range of 24-29 and im not doing school exit by the way, going to casual normal pub but just like someone said before it seems that older guys, over 28, are either in long relationships or chasing the young ones cos they are freaked about a girl in mid 30s thinking she will want kids and marriage before July 1st! i was thinking Sptember but oh well;)

Im happy where i am on life, no kids and happy with it, if it happens then great, if it doesnt good too!! theres adoption, etc..finding someone i would have a blast with is more important!

SO to come back to your post, where do you go out to say that cos from what i see theres more woman in this country than men so you should be in luck!!
Im not from here so obviously culture chock for me on !

Good luck !

i think what the o.p. is alluding to is the fact that younger women nowadays(18-21 years old) are way hotter than when he was that age and that 30ish women are lagging behind in this respect. it is probably difficult to take this when they are probably a little bit out of reach for him.

To be honest he is probably right when he says that single women in his own age bracket are not the best. Gravity usually has a big responsibility here im afraid and there aint nothing anyone can do about that.