Does my internet date still like me??

LegacyUser

Just wondering peoples opinions as im wrecking my head for the last few days over this!

Met a guy on the net back in Jan, started emailing each other and were getting on great, then swopped photo's and then numbers and eventually we decided to meet up. which happened last friday.. He is from Newry and myself Dublin so we met half way and had a nice day and went to movies and he came back to mine. Sex was not on the agenda but did happen the next morning.

We are both painfully shy and kissed each other goodbye before he left to go home, he had only left 2 mins and text to say he'd a nice time and we'd talk via msn later as normal.

We did talk and still have talked every night since but it feels different now and i'm unsure if its because for the first while we were getting to know each other and then planning the big date and now we don't have as much to talk about. or is he loosing interest because the sex has happened and he doesn't quite fancy me and he's too nice to tell me get lost.

I have quite low self esteem as it is and suppose am scared of the rejection as i really fancy him and would like to take things further but dont want to ask in case he doesn't feel the same.

kittenkiller

You should talk to him about it.
No one can tell you what he's feeling or what's real and what's just in your head.

Write it down and mail him or call him or even send him the link to this thread.
You'll feel better for getting things out in the open.

Just be wary because people can be different online, you never know what's real and what just looks nice written down unless you ask straight out.

Best of luck.

shellyboo

This is just something that boys do, I've found. They'll be very full-on when trying to woo you, but when something happens that makes them sure they 'have' you - usually sex these days - they tend to ease off a bit.

It's nothing to do with them losing interest or being lazy or not caring - I've found it just means they feel secure that you're not going to run away on them, so they can relax a bit and stop trying so hard. They get to be more natural.

That said, it's hard to tell with internet hookups... so many of the men online are really just looking for sex. I'd say trust your gut on this one. Give it a few days and then suggest meeting up again, perhaps on a Sunday or something where you can go to Newry for the day and then come home later... that'll rule out sex and give you an idea of what he wants, depending on his reaction to the idea.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies!! I should be talking to him tonight on line so i guess ill just say it then!

He is very chatty on line as am i but put together we were quite nervous and both quiet, we seem very alike in that respect.

I'll just talk to him and see what he says, worst is he says he doesn't feel the same and nothing i can do about that now!

Thanks again

SarahSassy

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Thanks for the replies!! I should be talking to him tonight on line so i guess ill just say it then!

He is very chatty on line as am i but put together we were quite nervous and both quiet, we seem very alike in that respect.

I'll just talk to him and see what he says, worst is he says he doesn't feel the same and nothing i can do about that now!

Thanks again

What are you going to ask him? Putting pressure on after meeting only once could come across as needy.. Tread carefully.

zxcvbnm1

I reckon this is an easy one.

WIthout knowing the full set up i reckon he is interested.
Saying that - someone can only be so interested after one meeting - even if yee did have sex.

Basically you just gotta suggest meeting up again.
SImple as that.

Say something like you enjoyed yourself last weekend and would he like to meet up again sometime soon.
If he agrees then he is interested - if not the he's not.

Keep in mind that it is a very reasonable question to ask of him.

Otherwise i can tell you from experience that you will wreck your head trying to analyse all these tinu things he said or did.
JUst get it out there.That's how relationships start.

smythire

ah, he must have been tired ya know. with all that traveling. i am confused, what is the 'next step'? you have done the film thing and the sleeping together with out sex and then the sex thing all pretty quick. so what the next step, going away with each other?