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Considering counselling

  • 26-04-2009 7:33pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hi.

    i'm considering counselling but am not sure. i realise though that it has to be my own decision.

    i feel like i need counselling although i don't know if i'm ready. i don't know if i'm depressed but don't know what's up with me.

    twice last yr i was feeling suicidal and once nearly acted on it. the only reason i didn't try it is cos i was afraid i'd fail and be left permanently injured and everyone knowing.

    i think maybe i just realise that everything can't be ok if this is how i feel sometimes. i guess it would be an idea to get counselling to stop me going back to that place. i guess maybe i just realise that even if i am grand on a day to day basis i'm constantly not too fair from the edge.

    i'm afraid to try conselling though, cos i tried it twice before (although i don't think i put my all in to it those times), and i think that if i am to try it i will have to give it my everything, and i think maybe even if the reason for going is to stop me going back to be suicidal that going to counselling and giving it may all may actually be what sends me back there.

    i don't even know if that makes sense, and i don't know what to do for the best.

    any ideas?
    thanks.


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  • #2
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    Hi OP,

    If you have been feeling that low I would suggest counselling -- thing is though, not all counsellors suit everyone. Also sometimes a psychotherpist may be better. You can enquire with your GP which might be best, or ring places near you that provide this service and see what they suggest.

    If you're not ready for counselling it won't realllly help. But the fact you are actively trying to go back means you want to do something about this, that's the first step. It's hard but it's a good choice. And if you don't like the person you're seeing after the first session, you can request someone else. That's completely normal


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    thanks for the advice star-pants.

    i think what i'm afraid of though is that therapy will only make me worse.

    i feel lost and i don't know what to do for the best.


  • #4
    kdak
    Closed Accounts Posts: 96 ✭✭kdak


    well just cause you go to one session doesnt mean you're commiting to it.
    go to one session and discuss with the counsellor whether or not its the best decision for you. generally just talking through your thoughts helps you decide for yourself so that might be worth a try???
    if you're looking for our thoughts on what might be best, id advise you to go and see how you get on. it may feel more negative in the short term, however if you really work through it and be completely honest im certain you'll come out better in the end.
    but like i said, you'll know whats best for you.
    hope this helps a bit.


  • #5
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    Agreed - I think you should try it again, sometimes it does get worse before it gets better. You're going to be talking and going through things that make you feel down when in a session, but you need to pursue that so you can get past it to the point where it's more of a release than hurtful memories.


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