Public toilets

LegacyUser

A lad here, I'm not sure if I'm the only one with this issue. For as long as I can remember, way way back from I was 6 or 7, I've never used urinals in public toilets.

I'd use a cubicle instead. As you can imagine this makes life difficult sometimes in a busy pub or club. But I'd do the same in work too. Like I can use a urinal if nobody is there with me. But if someone walks in I'd just "clam up", dunno why.

And as for those urinals that are like cattle troughs! :eek: It's not an issue that I'm embarrassed about been seen, hey I can use showers down the gym like anyone else. It's some sort of mental block somewhere.

Am I alone??

Victor

Its perfectly common - I imagine 10% of guys are like this. Some people don't mind when they are drunk, but would race to a cubicle if sober. I think its down to not being used to using urinals from a younger age.

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Yeah I never get why some guys go to the cubicles to take a slash instead of using the urinals.

Are they embarrassed?

Victor

View Profile, imagine urinating against a pane of glass in the middle of O'Connell Street on Saturday afternoon. Would this make you uncomfortable? That what some people feel when sharing the cubicles.

Terodil

I'm exactly like that, I hate using urinals. The stench, the view, the publicity of it all... ugh...

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No. Not really.

Disease Ridden

I'm exactly like that O.P; even when I'm hammered I go to use the cubicle! Hadnt a problem with it when I was in primary school but.

star-pants

I'm a girl and I have trouble using a cubicle!
Honestly I hate the thoughts that anyone could hear me, that I'm so close to people waiting outside. I have to just close my eyes and try and think of something else, or make noise with the toilet paper.

So I couldn't imagine if I were a guy I'd be comfortable at urinals, I can't stand people being out side the cubicle, I certainly wouldn't be ok with someone in it!
I'm not sure how to get around that type of nervousness, unless you try going to the one in the corner/furthest away from people when noone else is in there and build from there?

unreggd

Its all ropy now cos most guys in clubs are waitin on the cubicle to snort a few ounces!

dissin my reps!

crotalus667

View Profile wrote: »

Yeah I never get why some guys go to the cubicles to take a slash instead of using the urinals.
Are they embarrassed?

I always use a cubical when I can simply because I like to dab it dry with some tissue , plus I hate splash back :rolleyes:

Zaph

unreggd wrote: »

Its all ropy now cos most guys in clubs are waitin on the cubicle to snort a few ounces!

dissin my reps!

This thread has nothing to do with drug use in public toilets, please stay on topic.

hungryhippo

crotalus667 wrote: »

I always use a cubical when I can simply because I like to dab it dry with some tissue , plus I hate splash back :rolleyes:

+1 . Cubicles have always been the better option. You can race against the flush too. You never know what kind of a weirdo is going to come to the urinal beside you and stare you out of it, or worse, and you can't really defend yourself in mid flow with your cock in your hands. Plus you can let off a string of farts in privacy in a cubicle, should the need arise.;)

Cubicles ftw!

cafecolour

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paruresis

It's quite common.

The best way to get beyond it is basically telling one of your mates and have him/her stand in the bathroom while you try to go. Well, first have them in the hall in your flat, then in the hall with the door closed, then in the bathroom with their back to you, etc. If that's a success, you can repeat the process with a public toilet with them.

AnonoBoy

Splashback from people beside you is also pretty damn unpleasant.

Terodil

cafecolour wrote: »

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paruresis

It's quite common.

The best way to get beyond it [...]

Well tbh I'm not sure it's even a personal issue, much less some sort of sickness/disorder.

It's a matter of preference more than anything else. Perfectly ok not to want to get beyond it in my book...

cafecolour

Terodil wrote: »

Well tbh I'm not sure it's even a personal issue, much less some sort of sickness/disorder.

It's a matter of preference more than anything else. Perfectly ok not to want to get beyond it in my book...

I was a bit surprised to see full-on support associations and a psychological classification, but having suffered through it myself, it's pretty annoying.

It's not just that I prefered to use a stall - it's that I physically could not pee, even if I desperately, painfully had to - with someone there. It's basically performance anxiety - like really wanting to have sex but not being able to get it up. At my worst, even if I was in a stall, and someone else was in the toilet, I would have trouble going.

It's really annoying in a busy pub, very embarassing if you keep having to get up to piss every 5 minutes because only every 4th time is successful. I've had to leave pubs to go find a park or a quiter one to urinate, and then go back to my drink in the initial pub.

LegacyUser

cafecolour wrote: »

I was a bit surprised to see full-on support associations and a psychological classification, but having suffered through it myself, it's pretty annoying.

It's not just that I prefered to use a stall - it's that I physically could not pee, even if I desperately, painfully had to - with someone there. It's basically performance anxiety - like really wanting to have sex but not being able to get it up. At my worst, even if I was in a stall, and someone else was in the toilet, I would have trouble going.

It's really annoying in a busy pub, very embarassing if you keep having to get up to piss every 5 minutes because only every 4th time is successful. I've had to leave pubs to go find a park or a quiter one to urinate, and then go back to my drink in the initial pub.

This is basically a description of me!!

Jack Sheehan

I despise urinals. I alwas use cublicles unless im drunk, in which case i generally use whatever stands still.

wylo

OP Im kinda the same as you, maybe not as bad, I was perfect up until recently, never had a problem and then once it didnt happen and ever since then its been on my mind and I cant piss in a urinal unless im on my own. The mind is a funny thing, have you considered hypnosis or anything?

upmeath

I never had an issue until about a year ago. It's usually when I'm out. I'd never have a problem in the toilets in a restaurant/college/airport/any unlicensed premises, but for some reason in pubs and clubs I have trouble, maybe for the first 3 or 4 pints. I don't have a confidence issue, I'm not afraid of anyone seeing anything, I reckon I've just enough dodgy happenings in toilets in my time to be afraid to turn my back on anyone :rolleyes:

TimTim

cafecolour wrote: »

I was a bit surprised to see full-on support associations and a psychological classification, but having suffered through it myself, it's pretty annoying.

It's not just that I prefered to use a stall - it's that I physically could not pee, even if I desperately, painfully had to - with someone there. It's basically performance anxiety - like really wanting to have sex but not being able to get it up. At my worst, even if I was in a stall, and someone else was in the toilet, I would have trouble going.

It's really annoying in a busy pub, very embarassing if you keep having to get up to piss every 5 minutes because only every 4th time is successful. I've had to leave pubs to go find a park or a quiter one to urinate, and then go back to my drink in the initial pub.

Wow, I never knew there was an actual term for this. I'll put myself in that group of people who always uses a stall.

It has never been so bad that I've had to find somewhere else to go though, did cause a drug test once to drag out for some considerable time though...

the_syco

Control your breathing.

If you're at home, you exhale, you pee.

In the public toilet, you'll find that you're breathing is not normal, and thus, you panic. And then you cannot pee.

Next time you're in the toilet, try inhaling walking to the toilet, hold the breath, and exhale when you pee. If that fails, clamp your ass cheeks together, and instead of farting, pee. Fart when your finished.

Not everyone likes people looking at them, and with the "black in the jacks", many find it harder to pee in the open.

starbelgrade

the_syco wrote: »

Next time you're in the toilet, try inhaling walking to the toilet,

That is the last thing I'd do walking into the jacks.