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MSN Messenger Paranoia Problems

  • 25-04-2009 7:51pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm just a young person that uses MSN Messenger quite a lot with all my close friends.

    For some reason when I start using MSN Messenger, my personality changes. In person I am completely normal. But on MSN, I sometimes start to write depressive things and act like a "victim". If I don't do this, then I'd start to get paranoid. For example, if I was talking to someone for 15 minutes, then we don't message each other for a minute, then all of a sudden this person doesn't say goodbye, and just goes off MSN. I suddenly feel paranoid as if I've said something wrong. Other times, I feel that people don't want to speak to me because they are tired of speaking to me on MSN. I also use much more aggressive terminology on MSN, which I would never say or use in person. What I'm saying here is that my personality changes quite a lot on MSN and has caused me to lose friends over the past several months and I've started a lot of arguments. I can't understand why I do this on MSN...does anyone else experience this or know what I'm talking about?

    It's wrecking my head.


Comments

  • #2
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    Hi OP,

    this isn't uncommon, a lot of people feel like someone else when they're in front of a computer talking via IMs (such as msn etc). Typing and not saying it can sometimes be a more anonymous or removed form from yourself. When you're there in person you can see and feel what you're saying/the reactions to it. When you don't have the repurcussions of what you say (face to face) it's easier to say them.
    A lot of people create a different persona online and can sometimes show a not nice side of themselves.

    I found myself, that it's sometimes easier to talk about personal things online, if somethings bothering you, because you don't have to physically say it, and don't have the awkward atmosphere around it.

    All you can do is try and make yourself more on the msn than the 'other' you that comes out. Think about what you type before you do it and see if it's something you really want to say, and would say.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi OP, I can completely understand where you're coming from. You're right it seems. I just have to think before I type...It's so easy to type quickly and forget what you're saying, with no emotions in front of you...


  • #4
    Webmonkey
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,579 ✭✭✭Webmonkey


    Hey OP, i'm the same as you, well about the being paranoid thing when they go offline. Like if I said anything wrong or something. Then again in real life I'm seriously paronoid with things and it is something I need to change about myself.


  • #5
    bluecell99
    Closed Accounts Posts: 259 ✭✭bluecell99


    OP I think you are using msn too much and this is controlling your thoughts and actions and preventing you dealing with real life and talking to people face to face.

    What about cutting it out and developing your social skills and taking up new hobbies and interests which involve meeting other people?

    The internet is no substitute for real life and surely you can see if this is causing you problems then you must stop it.Like you would have to deal with any other problem.

    Particularly when you say yourself the messaging is bringing out a nasty side.is this the real you??I dont think so.Stop it and get involved.Come out from behind the keyboard and let people see the real you .


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