I didn't get invited :-(

coolaor

My BEST FRIEND Just had a really big party.
She didn't even tell me about it. :mad:
I'm so mad!
All of My Friends Were there!!!
I feel hurt.
What should I do!?
What should I say to her?
My Friends said It was good. They Weren't just trying to make me feel worse.
I just feel rejected. Like I'm not wanted. :(:(

morning-glory

Yeah totally say it to them, that's not very nice at all. clear the air and find out why. explain that it hurt you and if there was a problem they should have said instead of being immature and excluding you from the group.

estar

more details.

how good a friend are you?

what was your last contact with your friend?

are they trying to send you a message/

or are they just crap friends/

how did you find out

SarahSassy

Do absolutely. I would be very curious myself.

coolaor

Here's how I found Out: My others friend was talking to me on the phone and he didn't know I wasn't invited so He asked me was I going.
My last contact with her was yesterday When I asked her to come to McDonald's with me and some other people. She said yes.
She wasn't trying to invite me , I know this because she invited all of my friends two weeks before it. :-(

SarahSassy

Ask her.

StormWarrior

Has she seemed distant at all lately? Could it be maybe she's trying to pull away and doesn't really want to be friends any more? You should definitely ask her.

Oryx

Was there anything about this party or the people going to it that could have made you uncomfortable if you were there? Say, if someone you particularly dislike was going? Or if something would be going on that you couldnt take part in? (Wild drunkenness and youre teetotal, or a mad pillow fight and youre asthmatic....:)) Im just trying to think of reasons why a friend who otherwise is fine with you, would not invite you to a party. If all else was ok, it could have been that she was caught between a rock and a hard place, couldnt invite you because of a conflict with someone else.. that kind of thing.

Other than that, you just need to talk properly with your friend, see what she says. Cos anything else is really just guesswork.

star-pants

Only way to really know is to ask your friend. Just call her up and say that you were told about this party afterwards and feel hurt you weren't invited. Could be a random reason, or maybe as others said, she isn't feeling the friendship anymore.

wylo

Have you done anything to annoy any of your friends? Was there any bitching going on in general between some of you? Do you think you might have been smothering your friend or annoying her without realising?
Do you ever think that maybe your annoying? Sounds harsh but its very extreme to just not invite a best friend.

What they did was a cruel thing to do but it cant have been for no reason.

witzky

grow up!!!!!!!!!! do you really want to pin your hopes and dreams on a 'friend' like that, move on, theres's plenty good friends out there, honest decent friends out there. Doesnt sound like a friend to me. Speaking from experience, many people seem to be your friend, but as you age, you find out friends grow thinner and thinner. All i mean is, dont worry, enjoy time with real friends.. W

tony1kenobi

It sounds like a big elaborate set up to put you off the surprise birthday party your best friend is organizing for you.

I bet you had completely forgotten that your birthday is soon. That's how good of a friend she is.

Don't let on that you worked it out though. Or that I worked it out for you.

hungryhippo

tony1kenobi wrote: »

It sounds like a big elaborate set up to put you off the surprise birthday party your best friend is organizing for you.

I bet you had completely forgotten that your birthday is soon. That's how good of a friend she is.

Don't let on that you worked it out though. Or that I worked it out for you.

This could be correct, if the party hadn't already happened.

cowzerp

How do you know that she might have thought she invited you 2 weeks ago too, unless she goes around ticking off who she invited on a big diary this could easily happen

dresden8

coolaor wrote: »

My BEST FRIEND

No she's not. You just got screwed over. Largely and publicly.

Eric Cartman

your under 18 am i right ?

could it be something like you dont drink, or did some lad go that you both want to get with ? Or do you obsessivley clean houses while parties are still going on, or does she have friends that dont like you that talked her into it ?


if you answer yes to the no drinking i have to say i can kind of see where your friends come from, i was at parties when i was 15/16 and the one or two people that didnt drink never had fun and always brought the mood right down and just annoyed everyone

SarahSassy

Eric Cartman wrote: »

i can kind of see where your friends come from, i was at parties when i was 15/16 and the one or two people that didnt drink never had fun and always brought the mood right down and just annoyed everyone

And thats what is wrong with Ireland today... Underage drinkers who look down on non drinkers as spoil sports....

OP you need to ask her... Dont do it aggressively but do ask if its upsetting you so much.

banshee_bones

yeah i also get the impression that you are under 18.... but as everyone keeps saying you really wont know until you ask. Yes it may be awkward and difficult but personally I would rather know exactly where i stand with some so called "best friends"

Eric Cartman

SarahSassy wrote: »

And thats what is wrong with Ireland today... Underage drinkers who look down on non drinkers as spoil sports....

OP you need to ask her... Dont do it aggressively but do ask if its upsetting you so much.

unfortunatley thats how it goes , i heavent been to any party between the ages of 15 and 18 that wasnt just an excuse for underage kids to get pissed , it was never that they didnt drink that was the problem , it was always that they took a 'moral' high ground, looked down on everybody and complained about people drinking