No girlfriends.....

LegacyUser

Hi everyone!!

Im a 23 year old female, and have a small problem that is starting to worry me.

Due to the industry that I work in, how I interact with people, and my social circle, I have come to realise that I have no close female friends at all... I have a few people who are close enough to me to be considered 'good friends' but all are male. I do tend to get on better with males, and connect much better with them. I have a few female aqauintances, but none that I could text or call or do anything girly with at all.

I just watched a programme about a girls hen night, and she was surrounded by her female friends, and that got me thinking about how it's something that I would quite like. I get a little envious when I hear of girls going on holidays together, and having nights in together, and while it was something that I had when I was in my teens, in my adult life, it just has never ever surfaced...

It's not a huge deal, but I have no idea how I can remedy this.... I could explain some of the above points in a lot more detail, but thats the issue in a nutshell.....

Opinions and help will be appreciated

BroomBurner

Some people just don't need a core group of female friends to rely on and share stuff with.

You could go the usual route of picking up a hobby, etc. Or how about any female friends/girlfriends of your male friends?

The relationships you build with other women is really dependent on how much personal info you want to share. If you're someone that doesn't like sharing any personal info, then you're not going to find yourself in any close-knit Sex and the City style friendships (aka hell). It will feel unnatural and weird. If you do want to share, then it's a different story.

stiff kitten

enjoy being independent from people....enjoy going to the cinema alone, swimming etc for a while...why not? there's always people around...chill out...get to know yourself better...find out things that you enjoy...things will change in time..p.s having a close group of girlfriends means bitching most of the time...guys are much more level headed....take care

MadgeBadge

I had a similar problem while in Uni. My course was male dominated and I missed female company. I used to go out with the lads on scoring missions. I tried to befriend some of their girlfriends but it just wasn't happening, it always felt un-natural and forced. To be honest, I didn't even like the majority of them. I thought that perhaps like you (OP) that I just got along better with men.

Since returning home all my closest friends are women. They're friendships that took a long time to build, because trust takes time. You need to be patient, because some of the most fulfilling relationships take time to build. Especially if you're someone like me who isn't immediately open.

BroomBurner wrote: »

If you're someone that doesn't like sharing any personal info, then you're not going to find yourself in any close-knit Sex and the City style friendships (aka hell).

I wouldn't describe having that degree of openness and trust with other human beings as hell. I'd call it pretty lucky.

mbren

Hey Op,

I'm not sure where you are located, but check out www.meetup.com

Here, there are groups of people that meet up regularly to do things that they are interested in. E.G. there is a running group, if thats your thing or else there are just groups for socialising etc.

If you are in Dublin, i'd recommend this group www.newandnotsonewindublin.com
This group meets regularly and there is a good mix of guys and girls.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope it works out,

Best of luck

Reflector

join a hockey team or some female sports team. easy way to pick up new friends.

Amy33

I grew up in an all male household and therefore have always been much more comfortable in the company of men.

I feel I can be myself when I'm around men, but I feel when I'm in the company of women the atmosphere can be very insincere and bitchy.

I have never been to a hen night in my life and to be honest I find them tacky and embarassing.

Also in my experience men make much more loyal friends than women.

LegacyUser

OP here - many thanks for the links, they're excellent.

I think I just feel that I am doing something wrong.... But from reading your posts, I know I am not the only one...