Kissing with a heavy smoker boyfriend and health issues?

LegacyUser

My boyfriend and I are in a relationship now for six months. Our relationship started as friendship. He's 21 and I'm 20. I love him very much. But I have a problem. Since we started kissing, I have developed a cough, a very strange one, very dry and it starts with the feeling that I have smoke in my chest that is very irritating. He smokes more than 20 a day. I am feeling very worried about this because I feel very ill and I cannot tell my parents about my problem because they do not like my boyfriend in the first place being a heavy smoker. My boyfriend coughs too. I have asked him if he considers to stop smoking in the future. He does not believe it is necessary. Can anyone comment on this please?

shellyboo

Does he smoke around you? It's probably the effects of passive smoking. I noticed when I moved out of home, where both my parents were heavy smokers, my breathing became a lot easier - and when I go home for a weekend I notice the effect of the smoke straight away.

Tell him if he won't stop smoking, then he can't smoke around you anymore. Don't let him smoke in your house. When you're in his house, ask him politely to go outside, if he won't, leave the room when he's smoking.

You can't let his habit affect your health, it's not fair.

star-pants

Well, I don't know about him passing smoke onto you via kissing, unless he's literally just inhaled. Does he smoke around you though? Passive smoking could be affecting you if you're sensitive. My dad's chest goes nuts if someones smoking around him/fog machines etc..
I would suggest seeing your GP and asking them to check it out, it's not good if it's been going on this long. Dependent on what he/she says, you may need to talk to your boyfriend about this. But he probably won't give up.

Wibbs

Unless you're living with him, then kissing him is not going to give you a cough unless he's got an infectious disease or you're reacting in a psychosomatic way. Go to a doctor as any prolonged cough is to be noted and checked.