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Trust blindly?

  • 22-04-2009 10:53am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    do you think it's ok to trust your partner blindly? I know he's hiding something from me. I'm 98% sure he's not cheating, though. Should I try to find out or just wait for him to let it out?


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  • #2
    Amy33
    Closed Accounts Posts: 343 ✭✭Amy33


    Unregistered wrote: »
    do you think it's ok to trust your partner blindly? I know he's hiding something from me. I'm 98% sure he's not cheating, though. Should I try to find out or just wait for him to let it out?


    There's still that 2% niggling at you though.


  • #3
    bubblewrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 405 ✭✭bubblewrap


    People have to earn trust - if you think he is being sly, you need to have it out with him.

    What exactly are you unsure about? How is he acting?


  • #4
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    Well trust is usually blind for the most part, that's what it is. Trusting someone, having faith in them. I think trust is a major part of a relationship.


  • #5
    Nervous Wreck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,115 ✭✭✭✭Nervous Wreck


    ^^Agreed. My philosophy thus far with dating has been to trust until given actual reason not to. But for us to help you with this, you'd need to be a little less vague....


  • #6
    John Mason
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 10,661 ✭✭✭✭John Mason


    maybe he has a HUGE surprise organised for you - say nothing in case you ruin it


    you really might want to give a bit more details, it could be anything ?


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  • #7
    bubblewrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 405 ✭✭bubblewrap


    Thing is with trusting blindly, you have to do it but at the same time, you are opening yourself up for potention heartache. Think this is why I am so paranoid, I am sort of protecting myself for it happening then I can think 'ha told you' rather than 'I can't believe you would do this'. Not a healthy way to think but that is me.

    However, if he is giving you reason to worry, then you can't ignore it because it will build up. You need to talk to him.


  • #8
    Oh The Humanity
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,324 ✭✭✭Oh The Humanity


    Never EVER trust blindly.

    Use your eyes, ears, experience and instincts to decide whether to trust someone.


  • #9
    Wurly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,095 ✭✭✭Wurly


    Oh The Humanity wrote: »
    Never EVER trust blindly.

    Use your eyes, ears, experience and instincts to decide whether to trust someone.
    That is the best advice.

    OP - how are you so sure he's hiding something. What has he done to suggest he has?

    Being cheated on before can make you overly paranoid that something is going on in your new relationship. Were you hurt before?


  • #10
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    Oh The Humanity wrote: »
    Never EVER trust blindly.

    Use your eyes, ears, experience and instincts to decide whether to trust someone.

    Ok well this is partially what I meant by having trust in someone. Obviously you meet them and establish what you feel about them. Over time you have reason to trust them etc. Do be careful but you have to have some faith in them.


  • #11
    this_is_oddd
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13 ✭this_is_oddd


    Personally,
    I think with relationships you give, and HAVE to give a certain level of trust off the bat. say 60percent (i'll use stupid precentages lol)

    but the rest is what they earn. you earn trust and on the flipside a person can create mistrust. Usually trust your gut. Your mind can go off wondering and your heart can make you do crazy things. Trust your gut.

    I dont wanna be bad but people can be liars & cheaters. You trust a persons character and record. not cause they say "trust me"


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  • #12
    Bren1609
    Closed Accounts Posts: 459 ✭✭Bren1609


    "Suspicion always haunts the guilty mind" William Shakespeare


  • #13
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Bren1609 wrote: »
    "Suspicion always haunts the guilty mind" William Shakespeare

    OP here, not in my case...that's my problem, I always tell him everything but I don't get the same back.

    By the way, and talking about Shakespeare, if Romeo and Juliet had had a better communication, they would not have ended up dead ;)


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