Not sure what to do...

LegacyUser

I had an amazing day with my boyfriend yesterday where I’ve never felt closer to him or more loved in my life. We were in bed last night and talking when something came out of my mouth which I have never told anyone about.

It was a memory of being very young (about 7) and staying over my Mum’s best friend’s house. They had a daughter about my age and we were in twin beds. I woke up to find her Dad asleep in my bed beside me. I don’t know if anything happened, to be honest I don’t know if it’s that I don’t remember or that nothing happened. Or maybe something did happen and I’ve blocked it out. I have remembered the event a few times over the years but never told anyone about it. I think I remember at the time that he said the next day that he thought he was getting into bed with his own daughter.

I’ve found a man who I adore, we’re very much in love and I’m really happy in my life. It is my first time being in love but this has just kind of come at me and the realisation that something may have happened has kind of shaken me up. I don’t know what to do…. Advice please….!

barbiegirl

Don't let this memory ruin your life now. Something may or may not have happened. You can either find someone to talk about it with or decide not to, which ever you think will have less affect on your life now.
Maybe have a chat with your mum, ask how the daughter is, did she ever go off the rails, is everything there normal, for want of a better word. Then if it is, accept that in all liklihood, whilst it's weird, nothing happened. If there are however any causes for worry, then call a support line and talk it through.
But please, you are happy and in love, try to enjoy that without letting the past interfere.

Africa

Very possible he thought he was getting into bed with his daughter, and i think the chances of this happening are so so tiny that i would not think twice about it.

Enjoy your love

Das Kitty

It's funny how you perceive things differently as an adult as opposed to the information you had at the time. I would be near certain that this was a simple misunderstanding at the time, there's nothing wrong with dads cuddling their daughters in bed, only now that image is associated with sexual abuse so a lot of men would be very afraid to do that. I think you're casting the perspective of a person with today's views on the world onto an innocent incident that happened years ago.

On a side note, isn't the most amazing thing to feel that comfortable with your partner that no subject is off limits?

LouOB

It could of been a drunk Daddy coming in to check on the kids
Sees a bed and falls asleep or totally forgot you were there

Maybe ask your friend
or your parents
if not some professional help - if its really worrying you

CDfm

Like everyone says it looks to be entirelly innocent.

Is there any other reason you have feeling uncomfortable with him?

LegacyUser

Thanks to everyone above for your replys.

It is amazing to be in love.... :-) I do think it's surfaced because I feel safe enough to tell him.

Re the man, he's always been rude to me. I'm not sure if it's exclusively me, I've never noticed how he behaves to my siblings. He ignores me to this day (I'm now in my mid twenties with a great career) when he comes into my Mum's house and I'm there. I do also find him mildly creepy, although again since the memory surfaced again I didn't have any reason to find him so.

I think I will go and talk to someone about it - just to deal with it in my mind and get closure on the issue. The other half was lovely but I don't think I could talk to him about it, he was upset at the thought of someone possibly hurting me. Definitely couldn't talk to my Mum, she's still best friends with the same lady (who is gorgeous and I love like an aunt).

His daughters all seem relatively normal and happy, none ever really went that mental and all have stable lives now...

Agree that it is probably the case that nothing happened, however it's just niggling in my mind... the thoughts that something might have happened are not nice...

LegacyUser

OP you are lucky to have found someone you love so much. Thinking about possible past experiences wil only hurt you. I am in a similar position to you, but i also am not sure that something happened so rather than spoil relationships that i have now im just going to move on, not dwell in the past and to be honest i like to think that something didnt happen so thats what i choose to believe.
I think thats probably the best for you too becasue it would be difficult and hurtful to try and dig up the past...