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LegacyUser

Hi...This is going to sound shallow, but there is this guy..He is a friend of mine, we have kissed twice and i love everything about him except that he is not good looking..I am very good looking and i know if he was better looking i would want to go out with him in a second..I have only told two of my friends that we have kissed because i know if i tell anybody else they will think it is hilaroius..I seem to always be thinking off him and i dont know what to do...There was a rumour a couple of weeks ago that we were going out and everybody was like ya rite as if you would go out with him, what should i do?Doomed from the start i think? Should i wreck a good friendship?

John Mason

OMG :eek:

seriously leave this man alone and let him find someone who will appreciate what a good catch he is rather then someone who cant do anything without her friends approval :mad::mad:

petes

If you weren't attracted to him in the first place why did you kiss him twice??

shellyboo

Insurgent wrote: »

If you weren't attracted to him in the first place why did you kiss him twice??

I think she actually is attracted to him, but is scared of what her friends are going to say. Which is pathetic.

OP, leave the poor fella alone. He deserves better than someone who thinks he's not good enough for them.

Sinall

You can be attracted to people on more than one level. It sounds like you are attracted to this guys personality and to be honest, thats a much more enduring attraction. I am usually attracted to someones personality and find that a physical attraction can grow from that.

However, it seems that you are more concerned with what people think and the difference in your physical attractiveness. If this is your main concern then you are not ready for a relationship with this guy and it wouldn't be fair to go out with him. Don't mess him around. Try to stay friends if you value his friendship.

ManOfMystery

Who cares what your friends think? They're not the ones who will be spending time with him or being intimate with him.

If you want to go out with him, go out with him.

If your friends are so shallow as to laugh at who you choose, then they're not good friends.

eddie.fandango

I'll bite...

You know, it seems to me that you are way too concerned with what other people have to say about this guy. You refer to yourself as being "very good looking", which to me seems to be another indication of your poor self-confidence. "A rich man doesn't have to tell you he's rich".

You have some serious work to do on your own self-development before you can have a meaningful relationship with anyone. I'd recommend not pursuing this guy at the moment.

bman

I have to ask, what age are you OP?

CDfm

You sound so shallow that you would make the cast of Friends cringe

bubblewrap

He can't be that bad if you have kissed him twice, unless you were severely intoxicated at the time. Why should you care what others think? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but if you can't get excited over the idea of getting jiggy with him, then don't be with him because it is unfair. If he ticks all the other boxes, then be his friend.

Miss Fluff

You obviously like the guy OP, how foolish of you to disregard it from the onset because he doesn't meet your aesthetic standards.

REALLY good looking men are often either mind-crushingly dull or make an amoeba look intelligent.

Give the guy a chance and who gives a sh1t what your "friends" think. People that mind don't matter and people that matter don't mind.

Take stock and if you like him go for it.

Keyzer

Miss Fluff wrote: »

REALLY good looking men are often either mind-crushingly dull or make an amoeba look intelligent.

What about REALLY RIDICULOUSLY good looking men?

I mean someone as ridiculously good looking as Derek Zoolander???

That like saying all stunning looking women are retards....

Miss Fluff

Keyzer wrote: »

What about REALLY RIDICULOUSLY good looking men?

I mean someone as ridiculously good looking as Derek Zoolander???

That like saying all stunning looking women are retards....

Keyzer I said "often" as opposed to "all" so quite different if you read it again.

And D Zoolander ridiculously hot AND funny so it is possible:rolleyes: