Missing school so much

LegacyUser

hi,

its been 2 years since i left second school, at the time i was the typical irish teenager, couldn't wait to get out and free myself from the dictatorship and rules and felt i would be liberated however 2 years on and i really miss it. i just want to be back there, i miss the day to day banter, i miss the people, i miss the walk in the cold winter mornings or strolling in with a t-shirt in april.

i just miss everything about it, i think its somehwat related to not wanting to get old. i want to be eternally stuck at 15 in 5th year, the best time of my life.

worst thing of all is that just as i finished with school, by crappy coincidence my best friends had to leave the area for different reasons.

i feel i took my school friends for granted, i was complacement, i was happy to play the popular outsider and now im feeling the effects. i havent seen any of the lads for over a year.

MagicMarker

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Nevyn

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star-pants

Oddly enough you're far from alone. Most people don't appreciate their time in school with friends until they don't have it any more. I'm 25 and I miss being in school or college. Because you have an everyday purpose, you get to see your friends every day etc.
Are you in college now?
Unfortunately it is part of getting older, realising that you and your friends may have different paths and so there may be more time between when you see each other.
You adjust to different lifestyle of college or work, and make new daily friends - doesn't mean you can't still see your other friends.

sardineta

Take the next logical step and go off to college. It may be that you're still feeling institutionalised and will get over it, or you go to college and wean yourself off.

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LegacyUser

I left school in 2006 and I really enjoyed school like I used to come in at like 8 o'clock because my friends buses would come in at that time and then stay for an half an hour after school just talking to my friends. Even in 5th year I knew I would miss school once I left it but after we sat the LC me and most of my year would still hang out with each other even when we all went to different colleges.

Now 3 years (eek has it been that long?) on I dont really talk to anyone from school bar one or two lads who were my best mates in school. I wouldnt go back to school now because just the thought being told what to do, not being able to leave a class freely and just the general freedom on college.

Or even the thought being back in German/Irish class just makes me sick to my stomach.

Now im just really worried about leaving college as im going to into final year and my degree is a year longer then most of my mates who I came in with so they will be all gone when I go into final year.

CDfm

Rose tinted glasses are good too. Ozzy wears them.

It does take effort to keep in touch with people and make new friends.

Its the summertime and there are a lot of activities and you have to go and find them. In school everything was handled for you and frienships were by accident now you have to work for it.

Best of luck.

chavezychavez

OP, you're just not in a new routine yet.

I can remember when I thought that 5th year of secondary was the year that changed my life.
Then guess what, a few years down the line, another time and place took over that view.
And since then, more have replaced those.

We all mourn for the goods days gone by, and that a natural thing. In a sense enjoy it. But don't let it engulf you, much better times are to be had in the future. Keep that in the back of your mind, when you get depressed about the old days.

calahans

Jesus, thats a new one - someone missing school!! I had a good time but never wanted to go back.

As somebody else said - maybe you need to move on. Have you got a job or are in college? You will form adult relationships with people you meet in these places. These relationship will be more complex and more rewarding

LegacyUser

hi op again,

its not easy for me, i'm depressed, my life has no fun or excitment. i miss these days, today i just took a walk, a very long one with my ipod and was desperate just to find somewhere peaceful where i could think to myself without any human interference.

it might be easy for you when u left but not for me.

CDfm

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hi op again,

its not easy for me, i'm depressed, my life has no fun or excitment. i miss these days, today i just took a walk, a very long one with my ipod and was desperate just to find somewhere peaceful where i could think to myself without any human interference.

it might be easy for you when u left but not for me.

Thats a fairly awful way to feel. You dont say what you do work or college

Have you spoken to anyone - your GP for instance,If it was me I would.

You say you were a bit of an outsider. You might need to start getting skills in meeting people.You just might be very shy.

LOts of people go thru this when young. I moved around quite a bit for work and this meant I need to pick up skills. Join groups etc and still do it. I am in various institutes and associations and use those.

Friends are involved in Charities ,cultural groups etc but you have to take the first step.REally lots of them dont even believe in the stuff they join but do it as a social outlet.Pick any Political Party at the moment because of the local elections and they will want volunteers- try Fianna Fail for a better Social life. Macra na Feirme is another group that organises activities for members,

Best of luck