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One night stand?

  • 19-04-2009 1:01pm
    #1
    sandy88
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7 ✭


    I'm in college.
    Last friday night I was invited to a frat house by a friend who I rarely talked before (we are taking a same class and are facebook friend, but we didn't start talking till last tuesday).
    He asked me to the pregame (get drunk before going to a bar). When I texted him before I went to his house that night, he told me he's not going but still wanted me to go if I wanted. He picked me up at my place.
    We ended up watch a movie together on bed. I don't know what I was thinking (I didn't drink any alcohol at all). We had sex afterwards and it was my first time. I knew exactly what I was doing. He's a nice guy (but I don't know him that well).
    We didn't discuss if this is one night stand, but I'm thinking that way currently. We still talk and he wants to meet me up at the block party next week (our school's tradition, have a day off to party).

    I just don't know what to expect because most people don't talk after one night stand. I don't care about developing this into a relationship either. Should I have a talk with him or just let the thoughts go away?


Comments

  • #2
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    I assume you guys used protection? If not I'd get myself an STI check.

    Have you guys talked about anything? Does he know how you feel about this? Are you interested in a relationship or are you happy enough to stay friends?
    You can play it by ear and see how the evening goes, if he goes to kiss you/make a move you can say that you're not interested. OR you can talk to him when you see him.


  • #3
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    well, id talk to him. you need to ask him whats going on, and what he wants to happen. hear him out, then tell him what you want. i definitely would not just leave it unspoken.


  • #4
    sandy88
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7 ✭sandy88


    star-pants wrote: »
    I assume you guys used protection? If not I'd get myself an STI check.

    Have you guys talked about anything? Does he know how you feel about this? Are you interested in a relationship or are you happy enough to stay friends?
    You can play it by ear and see how the evening goes, if he goes to kiss you/make a move you can say that you're not interested. OR you can talk to him when you see him.
    we used protection.

    Well, we seem to know each other for a long time although we just started talking a week ago. I don't really know what I want out of this. I feel comfortable with him so far.


  • #5
    chickenhawk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 656 ✭✭✭chickenhawk


    I think he doesn't want it to be just a one night stand. If he did trust me you would never hear from him again!

    Keep talking to him. If you want more just ask him to do something with you. If he says yes then after that you'll know for sure.


  • #6
    finbarrk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,494 ✭✭✭finbarrk


    Well if you feel comfortable with him keep it going for another while. It wont be any harm even if you don't want it to get too serious. All these experiences are part of going through life.


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  • #7
    prinz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,598 ✭✭✭✭prinz


    Block party.......frat house....pregame.......

    If, by the sounds of it you are American, are you in college in the States or in Ireland? Perhaps you should seek advice off an American audience who may be more in tune with the norms or whatnot of your situation there.

    If you're an American in Ireland, meet up with the guy again and just see where it goes.Ask him.

    If you're Irish, take a good long break from the OC etc. etc. etc. boxsets.


  • #8
    jesus_thats_gre
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,441 ✭✭✭✭jesus_thats_gre


    Am thinking DCU..


  • #9
    sandy88
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7 ✭sandy88


    prinz wrote: »
    Block party.......frat house....pregame.......

    If, by the sounds of it you are American, are you in college in the States or in Ireland? Perhaps you should seek advice off an American audience who may be more in tune with the norms or whatnot of your situation there.

    If you're an American in Ireland, meet up with the guy again and just see where it goes.Ask him.

    If you're Irish, take a good long break from the OC etc. etc. etc. boxsets.

    Actually I am Chinese & studying in America right now. Maybe you are right, I should post this somewhere else.


  • #10
    prinz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,598 ✭✭✭✭prinz


    sandy88 wrote: »
    Actually I am Chinese & studying in America right now. Maybe you are right, I should post this somewhere else.

    Boards.ie is going global :pac:. Advice here is great but should also get some advice from a local perspective, things could be done/said/perceived/understood differently.Layho btw.


  • #11
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    I gave her the american perspective :p talk to him about it.


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  • #12
    sandy88
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7 ✭sandy88


    Overheal wrote: »
    I gave her the american perspective :p talk to him about it.

    actually i haven't yet.
    now we are obviously not one night stand, but we are not in a relationship either (which is something i want). I'll just take it easy. Thanks you guys!!


  • #13
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Fol20 that's way off topic which is against the charter so take it to PM if you're interested in that. Thanks

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #14
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Don't just presume because you sleep with someone one evening that it is a one-night stand. He has contacted you and wants to see you again so it would suggest he is interested. Do you like him?

    Mei wen ti mei nv by the way;)


  • #15
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    sandy88 wrote: »
    actually i haven't yet.
    now we are obviously not one night stand, but we are not in a relationship either (which is something i want). I'll just take it easy. Thanks you guys!!
    Hope it goes well for you, so :) be sure to hit us back if you have any other questions.


  • #16
    sandy88
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7 ✭sandy88


    Miss Fluff wrote: »
    Don't just presume because you sleep with someone one evening that it is a one-night stand. He has contacted you and wants to see you again so it would suggest he is interested. Do you like him?

    Mei wen ti mei nv by the way;)

    That is actually a good question cuz I don't know the answer either. [he's a nice guy.] We'll probably see each other more before he graduates this May.


  • #17
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    sandy88 wrote: »
    Actually I am Chinese & studying in America right now. Maybe you are right, I should post this somewhere else.



    this is good idea .I'm originally form the states ,and the scene is completely different here.


  • #18
    upmeath
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,492 ✭✭✭upmeath


    I was wondering if I'd just been linked to some sister site in the states...

    www.d4boards.com/orangecounty anyone? :D


  • #19
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
    Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
    Have a nice day.
    Thaedydal


  • #20
    sandy88
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7 ✭sandy88


    Unregistered wrote: »
    this is good idea .I'm originally form the states ,and the scene is completely different here.

    so I talked to one of my American friend. She had a similar situation last school year and now they are in a relationship.
    I guess this is normal in the states but not in where I came from.
    Also I know I don't want to get involved in a relationship at this moment. I'll just put my thoughts aside and enjoy being with him. That's the best I can do.
    I really thank you all!! <3


  • #21
    **Caroline**
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 114 ✭✭**Caroline**


    Just take it by ear and see how it goes. There's no rules for what you should and shouldn't do - just do what feels right to you at the time and have no regrets. What's life without experiences? You're both consenting adults and are taking relevant precautions so if you're happy, I can't see the harm. And you never know - you could get to know each other better and fall head over heels... ;)


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