Sexually attracted to my cousin

LegacyUser

hey i have a weird problem and i wonder if anyone has any advice

Im 20 years old and im sexually attracted to my 17 year old cousin,shes the usual blond,great boobs but also a fantastic ass and iv felt like this for a while now,we get on great and always have a laugh,now its not the fact that im sexual starved and im just desperate because iv had plenty of girlfriends and i have sex on a regular basis but i find i just cant stop thinking about her,if im masturbating think about her gets me off in a fraction of the time other girls do.Am i just having a phase or is this a more deeper problem,now im not gona act on it but i can say if given the opportunity i wouldnt.

Thanks for any advice or similar experiences you might have

CelticDemon

No i guess loads of people find there cousins attractive, its not like there your sisters or brothers and yes they are from your family.

thread very careful my friend, ok i think in the eyes of the law , 3rd or 4th
cousins is ok if you want to go down that road.
All i can say on this matter is the repercussions for you and her if your family find out say if something did happen.
I live in a small village and i do know of two cousins who are boyfriend and girlfriend with a child together and being honest ppl look at them in a different manner.

Alittle off-topic about what you are asking but to let you know!

Phototoxin

Its sensible that you find her attractive as she's probably genitically similar enough in the parts that matter so that you think she's similar enough but yet different enough to be able to produce offspring that are viable.

Miss Fluff

Fine to fantasise about her while bashing the bishop my friend but I'd be very wary indeed about talking to her about it. My guess is she would be horrified. You're a young lad and said you have no problem with the ladies so I would restrict your feelings to her to your own "private" time and only consummate relationships with non-relatives if I were you.

philologos

I think it is legal. However, given the social stigma to this in the West, it isn't the best course of action for you OP. There are plenty of good looking girls in the world, and I think you should firmly draw the line here, and go elsewhere. Sometimes in life principles have to come above lusts, this is definitely one of those situations.

It would be probably best if you didn't even entertain the fantasy even.

Overheal

Jakkass wrote: »

It would be probably best if you didn't even entertain the fantasy even.

I'd disagree there. Playing out the fantasy would seem more cathartic. Eventually you would get bored of the fantasy anyway, and/or find yourself attracted to someone else.

cowzerp

Unregistered wrote: »

shes the usual blond,great boobs but also a fantastic ass and iv felt like this for a while now

You fancy a hot bird, nothing unusual there-just ask yourself how would going out with your cousin affect your life?

i'd guess it would have more problems than worth it..but i dont know your family and how they would react.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Overheal wrote: »

I'd disagree there. Playing out the fantasy would seem more cathartic. Eventually you would get bored of the fantasy anyway, and/or find yourself attracted to someone else.

I'd disagree and agree with Jakkass. He won't get bored of this fantasy and it could be holding him back with other relationships.

OP - escape this, can only end up in disaster. She's probably not interested in you so it would be horrific if you made a move. If she is it would be even worse, condoms can fail as does the pill. An unexpected pregnancy is bad enough but with your younger cousin it would be far worse and you'd be the bad guy amongst your entire family.

To be honest I think marriage/sex with first cousins should be illegal, its terribly selfish when you think of the possible consequences for the children.

British Pakistanis are 13 times more likely to have children with genetic disorders than the general population - they account for just over 3% of all births but have just under a third of all British children with such illnesses.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/programmes/newsnight/4442010.stm

I'm guessing you're not planning kids with her but if you start a relationship and fall in love that could change

eddie.fandango

Hey OP, I can see that this is a very awkward position for you.
In my opinion, I think you need to accept that these fantasies are just that, fantasies. We all know that attraction isn't a choice; you can't help feeling the way you do, but you need to come to terms with the fact that this can't go any further.

Maybe the fact that it is so taboo is part of the attraction? Any thoughts?

Suaimhneach

Forbidden fruit always appears sweeter.
Agree with all of the above.
It will pass, do not act on it.

JuJuBean

My brother had a thing with my cousin, a few years ago when he was about 25 and she was 23. I was totally grossed out and embarrassed by it. They snogged in front of some friends of mine and my friends were also shocked. I didn't know how to deal with it to be honest and encouraged him to stop. Eventually her holiday was over and she returned to the states, and it ended then. Nobody refers to it now, its totally swept under the carpet, and the older generation never knew anything about it. I found it very upsetting, I think mainly because of the shame.

sid4lev

I can confirm that it is legal. A male in this country can only be prosecuted for incest if he has sexual relations with a daughter/sister/grandmother. Thats it-cousin is legal.

LegacyUser

great thanks for all the help,just thought i might be a bit weird but you know i kinda get the feeling she mite be attracted to me aswell,shes always playful and flirty and touchy around me,is that normal or is it her feelings too,should i come clean and tell her or just leave,because its been on my mind for while and its geting hard to concentrate???

Otis Driftwood

She is 17 and your cousin.
Keep your mouth shut.

suspectpackage

You need more girls in your life.

Hartyk87

nedtheshed wrote: »

She is 17 and your cousin.
Keep your mouth shut.

It will pass

localhothead

if its any help, i know a great banjo teacher

Zaph

localhothead wrote: »

if its any help, i know a great banjo teacher

It will definitely help you to read the charter before posting here again, specifically the part about unhelpful or off-topic posts.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Unregistered wrote: »

great thanks for all the help,just thought i might be a bit weird but you know i kinda get the feeling she mite be attracted to me aswell,shes always playful and flirty and touchy around me,is that normal or is it her feelings too,should i come clean and tell her or just leave,because its been on my mind for while and its geting hard to concentrate???

Will you listen to people. Just leave. Don't be a fool, going for it is insanity. She's probably flirty because she's comfortable around you BECAUSE YOU'RE HER COUSIN AND THEREFORE OFF LIMITS

Sleepy

Unregistered wrote: »

great thanks for all the help,just thought i might be a bit weird but you know i kinda get the feeling she mite be attracted to me aswell,shes always playful and flirty and touchy around me,is that normal or is it her feelings too,should i come clean and tell her or just leave,because its been on my mind for while and its geting hard to concentrate???

Don't misread signals OP. Lots of girls are playful and flirty with men they believe to be 'safe'... Since having a daughter with my partner I've noticed female friends will often put themselves in positions with me that they'd not have done before they knew that I was off the market and unlikely to pursue any interest that might be aroused by their actions. These girls aren't interested in anything more than a flirt, a cuddle or whatever but they feel safe doing that with me because they're unavailable to me in the same way your cousin probably sees herself as being unavailable to you...

Broad

My aunt and uncle were cousins. They married and had three perfectly fine children. Apparently we don't fancy our brothers and sisters and parents and children (and sometimes our cousins) because we "smell" (in a pheromone way) their similarity to us genetically and something in us tells us that it would be a bad idea and this is reinforced by taboo. Cousins share one set of grandparents and don't share any parents - apparently the odds of any genetic problems with children of cousins is only really apparent if cousins keep marrying cousins within the same society, not a one off thing. And it certainly is not classed as incest. The problems arise when a limited group of people keep marrying cousins and the gene pool is shrinking.

O'Coonassa

Woould ya ever lookit the heathens over the water lol

God how I hate Catholicism. It's actually Evil.

philologos

O'Coonassa wrote: »

Woould ya ever lookit the heathens over the water lol

God how I hate Catholicism. It's actually Evil.

Theres no explicit forbidding of first cousin marriages in Christianity. However, it's probably prudent not to given the biological argument against it and the social stigma the OP is likely to unleash upon himself.

Wibbs

O'Coonassa lets ease up on the off topic faith bashing.