I like to wear skirts

LegacyUser

I am a man , i have always liked skirts ever since i was very young , i have gotten some hassel for this , when i was 13 i put one on at home , my mother told me to take it off , i
did'nt , later that day when my father got home he beat and then whipped me for wearing that skirt , after that i was afraid to wear skirts , that was 17 years ago , today i am living on my own , i still like skirts , i like to wear them as a man and i do not try to look like a woman , i
don't like kilts because they are never long enough , i would normally wear a skirt longer than
knee length and i like bright colours , i would like to wear skirts more often however the fear
from what happened when i was 13 does not seem to go away and the terror does stay with me , what could i do to overcome this?
I also want to say that i am not gay , i do like women , i find skirts' more comfortable and
i just have always really liked them an awful lot , ever since i was very young

Bottle_of_Smoke

I wouldn't rule out skirts being a future fashion trend for men so long as they're not short. Think of men wearing platform shoes in past decades.

Though thing is, for now skirts are designed to emphasize female sexual characteristics and they're going to look girly on you and people will assume you're gay/trans.

Maybe if you made them yourself or knew someone who could design a mens version you wouldn't get so much hassle.

As for the terror, counsellor's/psychotherapist probably the best way to go

Silverfish

I would recommend counselling also, if something is haunting you that badly that you can't even enjoy something that makes you happy and isn't hurting anyone... well, thats not good.

On a side note, have you checked out utilikilts?

prinz

Bit of an odd one but ok try counselling with the problems your past is causing you now, and while you're there maybe delve into why you like wearing skirts in the first place. It's going to be a long long time before people don't have an adverse reaction or make presumptions about a man walking around in a colourful knee length skirt day to day. That said there was a young fella I remember in the German music charts a few years ago who made a habit of wearing, kilts and skirts.

star-pants

What your father did was wrong - and as it has had such an effect on you, you might consider counselling, even just to talk through it.

As regarding wearing skirts -- doesn't David Beckham wear sarongs or some such? Could you get away with those? People will always think what they want to think, and what's deemed 'right' in society. So you may get odd looks for it, but at the end of the day once you can cope with the reaction, you should be comfortable in who you are.

easyeason3

If you didn't feel comfortable going to counselling, which I think you should because of the physical abuse, then you could try writing it down in a personal diary that is set aside just for this purpose. Not everyone can speak freely to a counsellor so this is another option available for you.

Also don't hold too much of a grudge or anger against your parents for what they did. They are from a different generation where things are viewed as black or white, it doesn't mean they wanted to hurt you. I'm sure if they could turn back the clock they would, because my mother & father were very heavy handed on me & my sisters growing up but it's only in recent times that they admitted they were wrong to be so harsh.

If dressing in womens skirts makes you happy then go for it. It is very easy to buy online or but in a shop for your 'girlfriend/ partner/ wife'. You are not doing anyone any harm whatsoever, you're not the first to feel like this & you won't be the last.

However if you do ever get an urge to wear a skirt in public please, please be careful. If I saw a man walking down the street in a skirt I would look twice, but unfortunately there are other people out there who would want to do you physical harm. So if it is a possibility please be careful for your own safety.