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Problems in the bedroom

  • 14-04-2009 8:36pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey ill keep it short iv been seein my gf for a month and a half r so. Im 19 she is 20 . We were both virgins until we had sex 2 weeks ago . First time same ol problems sore etc. We have had sex 4 times i think and she doesnt get any pleasure from it . We keep havin to stop cause she is sore. now she has givin up on the idea of having sex at all . I keep tellin her she needs to give it time and itl stop bein sore and start feeling good . has anyone else had this problem and if so what did u do?


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  • #2
    pookie82
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    Going to ask the usual..... is she aroused first, are you guys using lube etc? I don't think most guys appreciate just how painful first time (and even second, third or fourth time) sex can be for a girl. Some fly through it and for others it feels like being repeatedly stabbed - not an enjoyable experience or one you'll want to rush back into without patience.

    Don't rush her or make her feel like she's inadequate. Tell her you guys will take your time from now on and wait until she's ready again. Too much "ah come on, it'll stop hurting after a while it's normal, stop fussing" will just make you sound insensitive and like you're only interested in getting back to business and not about making her feel good.

    Give her time and be nice about it. And always, ALWAYS use lubricant. Do not underestimate its power.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    yea she is usually aroused first i usually wait until she says she is ready. I do take my time with her and dont just rush to get it done with. We never used lube before i actually put that in my post but for some reason it was taken out by the mod .


  • #4
    Joey the lips
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,262 ✭✭✭✭Joey the lips


    I love how these posters can be ann but we have to reveal our name and answer these embarresing questions :D

    Yes this happened to us! Yes she was "Wet" get the lube she as you will discover is prob not wet enough. wait longer as well. Make some excuse up like your enjoying foreplay. It helps trust me.

    Your prob using condoms. they seem to effect the sensation so lube the outside of the condom.

    As for her going off sex dant make it an issue but try say your enjoying the foreplay and you'd love to keep trying for the fun anyway

    Stick with it..... It works out eventually


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