Some advice please

G-Money

Ok, I thought I'd be original and post on here looking for a bit of advice. It's not like anyone else ever does that

So I met a girl from an internet dating site. We met up and got on quite well and it became obvious that we liked each other. So we agreed to meet up again but this hasn't happened yet. We met about 2 1/2 weeks ago and the plan was to meet up this week but that looks like it's out the window now. There's some stuff going on with her that she is a bit stressed about so I can kind of understand that meeting up with me is not exactly her top priority and that's fair enough. I asked when would suit to meet up again and she said "maybe in 2 or 3 weeks"!

I quite liked this girl and I'm pretty sure she's interested in me, however I can't shake this nagging feeling that I'm maybe wasting my time. Part of me thinks the delay in meeting up is just because of what is going on with her. Then other times I start to think she's not that interested and is maybe even meeting up with other guys. I suppose I don't want to put things on hold myself if she's not doing the same thing. By that I mean I don't want to turn down dates with other girls if she is going out with other guys. I haven't asked if she's met up with anyone as to be honest I don't think I want to know.

She lives about an hour from where I do and part of the reason for the delay in meeting is transport difficulties in doing so, which should be resolved in a few weeks (hence the delay). I have a car so I could go collect her but I'm wondering if suggesting that will just make me seem totally desperate. I mean I've already asked a few times about when we are going to meet up again.

I also feel like I'm the one doing all the texting and stuff and I know the guy is supposed to do the chasing but it's getting to the point where I feel like the Wild E Coyote and I'm just waiting for the ACME anvil to fall onto my head.

Thoughts?

starbelgrade

Play it cool. If she's interested, she'll let you know. If you keep up the way you are going, she'll think you're far to keen & loose interest fast. If you act like you're not too bothered, she'll be more interested.

Women aren't complicated - they might seem so, but all you gotta do is realise that whatever you think they are thinking, then it's probably the opposite.

G-Money

I think you are right Star, I'm going to back off a bit. I won't bother sending any more texts or making any calls until she does.

Monkey61

Hmm...being honest OP this one doesn't look good. It is hard to tell whether she is justified in putting you off considering I don't know what the "stuff" is that she has going on, but can anyone really be too stressed to go out on a date with someone they really like?? Barring major mental problems I doubt it.

Personally, if I like someone and went out on a date with them, I certainly wouldn't wait 5/6 weeks to see them again. Surely a week would be the max, unless somebody was away on holidays/work or doing exams or something. And even then a coffee date isn't going to kill anyone for time. That's ludicrous. Living an hour apart isn't really that far especially since you drive.

I would say get on with your life. Be open to meeting new girls and go on dates. If you really want to be sure then ask her to set a date for your next meet up in 2/3 weeks. If she puts you off again then you will know that she isn't interested.

G-Money

Just a bit of a further update. I didn't contact her and a week later she hadn't text'd or anything. I sent her a text and she mentioned about being stressed etc. I sort of brought up the meeting thing again and she said if we do meet it may not be for a few weeks.

For me anyway, this finalised it all in my head. I immediately deleted all her texts, her emails, her email address and her number and I'm not contacting her again. I don't know if she will contact me but I don't really care now anyway.

Bit of a shame as I thought there was a spark there. But I feel like she is fobbing me off so stuff it.

NEXT!

Millie

grandmaster wrote: »

Just a bit of a further update. I didn't contact her and a week later she hadn't text'd or anything. I sent her a text and she mentioned about being stressed etc. I sort of brought up the meeting thing again and she said if we do meet it may not be for a few weeks.

For me anyway, this finalised it all in my head. I immediately deleted all her texts, her emails, her email address and her number and I'm not contacting her again. I don't know if she will contact me but I don't really care now anyway.

Bit of a shame as I thought there was a spark there. But I feel like she is fobbing me off so stuff it.

NEXT!

Good Man

Mr Benevolent

For me anyway, this finalised it all in my head. I immediately deleted all her texts, her emails, her email address and her number and I'm not contacting her again. I don't know if she will contact me but I don't really care now anyway.

Yup, good man indeed. Great thing about internet dating is that there's always another woman around

Oh The Humanity

You did right.

Better luck NEXT time!

upmeath

grandmaster wrote: »

I don't know if she will contact me but I don't really care now anyway.

Fair play, nothing worse than letting yourself get towed along.

I've let myself in for that a couple of times, sometimes you blow things out of proportion, might only be a kiss or a cuddle where you feel a connection with someone and spend ages trying to follow it up but it never really materialises.

Women are awful for doing this to lads and I think they often don't realise they're doing it. No doubt lads can be just as bad, people should just get the truth out, get it over and done with instead of silly mind games, they only leave one person in limbo and it can make for a much more painful let-down.

G-Money

Yeah it was a bit of a strange one. She seemed keen to meet up again then not. I don't know, maybe she's off f*****g someone else. Doesn't matter now anyway.

My mate text'd me today asking me to go out with him and 4 single women tomorrow night. Being the selfless guy that I am, I said yes

upmeath

grandmaster wrote: »

Being the selfless guy that I am, I said yes

Dedication to the cause, best of luck!