I can't stop stressing

LegacyUser

i know this should be in the parenting section but im having computer problems and cant register...anyway ive been trying to concieve for 18 months and have had no luck just two weeks ago myself and my partner were given the all clear from the hospital so i know we are ok in that matter ive been using ovulation kits this month and day 14 of my cycle was a negative result and instead day 16 and 17 were positive,i didnt see my partner on day 17 and im stressing out that ive failed again this month although i wont know for another 11 days,its really taking over my mind and i know it cant be having a good effect on me,i have a 3 year old daughter with my partner so i know i can do it again as ive done it before,i have a tilted womb and i never asked the doc if that would affect my chances,is there anyone in the same situation?im so upset when i hear of others getting pregnant

LegacyUser

Don't be worrying..if it was positive for day 17 then days 14, 15 or 16 would've been good days to aim for conception as sperm live for at least 3 days. Chances are, if you had've had intercourse on day 17, by the time the sperm reached the egg, it would've been too late as the ovum only live for 24hrs. Best of luck!

LegacyUser

thank you so much for the reply im losing sleep just thinking of it,it starts to take over after a while its not as easy as i thought i had no trouble when planning my daughter,ill just have to keep my fingers crossed for a positive outcome

LegacyUser

hey there op, please try and be a little more gentle with yourself, i used to work for a fertility clinic and all the advise i can give you is just try and relax and let nature take its course, your hormones are all over the place, mayb try a break away for yourself and your partner and unwind, some quality time might help relax you and who knows! its really tough i know but take heart, your no alone, best of luck darling x

Otis Driftwood

Some friends of mine are in exactly the same boat.Been married nearly 3 years and trying to conceive for about 18 months too.Both have been checked out and are in perfect working order.The doc has told them that its likely the stress and pressure that is effecting her getting pregnant and it will just take time.Try and relax and stop worrying about it(easier said than done,I know)and most of all,have fun trying!:)

Bottle_of_Smoke

There is actually a trying to conceive forum as well. (subforum to parenting)

Blisterman

Stress can't be helping.

Why all the pressure? Why not enjoy sex for what it is, and eventually it'll happen.

Crannog

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im stressing out that ive failed again this month

Please read what you wrote here again and realise what huge pressure you are putting on yourself. You may feel like you've failed, but, you've done everything that you can. Definitely doesn't sound like failure behaviour.

I really hope that you get the baby that you want soon. And, if it doesn't happen on this cycle, it won't be because you've failed.

Best of luck.

LegacyUser

Ihave been in your position. I am a frequent poster, but going anon for this one. Stress does not help. Our gyny todl us to make love, not have sex to procreate.

However, we did find that there can be difficulties with female orgasm. All males orgasm, that is dispense sperm, but not all females orgasm. if you use some assitance in coming to orgasm, immediately after you make love, it can assist in drawing the spetm into where it matters.

a decent vibrator (rabbit) will help and may bring on a pregnancy.

This can cause prpoblems for some males, but 'twas Mr ANON who discovered and bought the item for me. 2 girls later, after a 13 year wait, all is well.

My thoughts and prayers are with you

LegacyUser

there is no pressure im just making pressure i suppose, i want the kids close in age..im only 26 and i have time on my side but a friend of mine started trying a few months ago and it happened within a month and shes always talking about it,i feel sad hearing her stories but happy for her at the same time she keeps asking me "how im gettin on"and i feel so bad saying i had no luck i wish i hadnt told anyone i was trying in the 1st place,im always worrying about everything i think at times im crazy for havving another one when all i do is worry about my daughter maybe im not the only parent who does it but i torment myself thinking of how her life will be,will she be happy?will she meet the right partner?then i think of what life would be like if i lost her and i cry alot,im just a mess