Loss of Innocence

littletiger

I don't believe at everybody loses their virginity at 14 or 15, which seems to be the common perception theses days. I think it puts pressure on young people and they believe they are abnormal if they are virgins at 16.

tony1kenobi

They did. To me.

Galvasean

You forgot the 'Still have it' option.

Oh who am i kidding?

Piste

I think it's a little insulting to say that anyone who's ever had sex is suddenly "not innocent".


It's also a bit delusional to say people retain their innocence up until the moment they lose their virginity, kids are exposed to sex through the media long before they even understand what they see. Most people are fooling around with boys/girls before they even have sex. If you hop on over to the Clearasil and Hormones forum (lol plug...) you'll see in the sex discussion thread most people didn't see losing their virginity as a big deal, most certainly not as a "loss of innocence".

Birdie086

Was just before my 17th Bday

MagicMarker

littletiger wrote: »

I am 29 so I don't think I am over the hill but I don't believe at everybody lost their virginity at 14 or 15. I think it puts pressure on young people and they believe they are abnormal if they are virgins at 16.

What?

Abi

Galvasean wrote: »

You forgot the 'Still have it' option.

Oh who am i kidding?

:rolleyes: Fine. Tomorrow in the field behind the bike shed. Bring a flagon and jonnies or no dice.

seanybiker

i had to bloody wait till i was 16 grr. Ah well i iou there eventually

Dudess

I think it depends on the person, the situation, their reasons for becoming sexually active and the person with whom they're doing it... rather than age.

I see the OP's point, it's just the phrasing is a bit off: in and of itself, 14 and 15-year-olds having sex is not putting pressure on other 14 and 15-year-olds, but a culture which normalises this and propagates the notion that EVERYONE is sexually active at 14/15 is bound to put the pressure on some.
"In my day" it was 16 (or 17 at the latest) that was considered the "normal" stage and I was still a virgin at 18 and felt like a freak and was convinced I was the only one, apart from nun-type girls, of my age group who wasn't a virgin. It was obviously a load of nonsense but I couldn't have known that at the time. So I just got sex out of the way with some random guy. That was me having sex for all the wrong reasons. And I wasn't the most impressionable of teenagers.

There is a notion also that all teens are horn-dogs - not true. Not everyone just wants to shag anybody who's not monstrous - if it was so natural and spontaneous, why are so many people dreadfully nervous the first time?
And while sex isn't a big deal for some people, it is for others. Maybe that's socially and culturally derived but that doesn't make it less of a reality.
It can also be more of a big deal for girls than for guys - pregnancy and fear of first time pain being the obvious factors.

Princess Jade

Dudess wrote: »

I think it depends on the person, the situation, their reasons for becoming sexually active and the person with whom they're doing it... rather than age.

I see the OP's point, it's just the phrasing is a bit off: in and of itself, 14 and 15-year-olds having sex is not putting pressure on other 14 and 15-year-olds, but a culture which normalises this and propagates the notion that EVERYONE is sexually active at 14/15 is bound to put the pressure on some.
"In my day" it was 16 (or 17 at the latest) that was considered the "normal" stage and I was still a virgin at 18 and felt like a freak and was convinced I was the only one, apart from nun-type girls, of my age group who wasn't a virgin. It was obviously a load of nonsense but I couldn't have known that at the time. So I just got sex out of the way with some random guy. That was me having sex for all the wrong reasons. And I wasn't the most impressionable of teenagers.

There is a notion also that all teens are horn-dogs - not true. Not everyone just wants to shag anybody who's not monstrous - if it was so natural and spontaneous, why are so many people dreadfully nervous the first time?
And while sex isn't a big deal for some people, it is for others. Maybe that's socially and culturally derived but that doesn't make it less of a reality.
It can also be more of a big deal for girls than for guys - pregnancy and fear of first time pain being the obvious factors.

MOAR!

Mena

Galvasean wrote: »

You forgot the 'Still have it' option.

Oh who am i kidding?

G'wan then admit it, you hit the 30+ option up there right?

Gummy Panda

I had the sex at 16. Her mam and dad was out, and we were both naked on the bed fooling around. She very directly said to me "Would rather just have sex instead?". I said yes ofc and she grabbed a box of condoms she had hidden under her bed.

I was a happy panda :pac:

Aidric

Gummy Panda wrote: »

I was a happy panda :pac:

In her wildest dreams she could never have imagined losing her virginity to a panda.

Terry

seanybiker wrote: »

i had to bloody wait till i was 16 grr. Ah well i iou there eventually

Mobile?
Fair play for not using text speak.

Poll edited to cater for those, like myself, who are still innocent.

Zillah

Terry wrote: »

Mobile?
Fair play for not using text speak.

Poll edited to cater for those, like myself, who are still innocent.

After Hours, take note! For the next few years, whenever anyone is moderated by Terry, the correct response is "Yeah? Well you're still a virgin!"

Gummy Panda

Aidric wrote: »

In her wildest dreams she could never have imagined losing her virginity to a panda.

Animal sex is always the best :pac:

Dudess

Zillah wrote: »

After Hours, take note! For the next few years, whenever anyone is moderated by Terry, the correct response is "Yeah? Well you're still a virgin!"

If he gets it tonight though you're in deep sh1t...

Insect Overlord

I was 18, but I wasn't innocent :cool:

Terry

Dudess wrote: »

If he gets it tonight though you're in deep sh1t...

Have you seen me?

bluto63

18 here.
Wasn't with anyone special. Just my college flatmate who was good to go

littletiger

Interesting to note how few people were 16 and under when they first had sex.

littletiger

Also interesting to note how many still have white halos - unless Terry has voted multiple times.

I wonder how many priests are 'still wholesome in the eyes of the church'

netwhizkid

I was 12 when I found bertieahern.com while doing a school project and would say I pretty much lost my innocence there and then. It was a few years later that I lost "ye olde virginity".

giggsy664

Piste wrote: »

I think it's a little insulting to say that anyone who's ever had sex is suddenly "not innocent".


It's also a bit delusional to say people retain their innocence up until the moment they lose their virginity, kids are exposed to sex through the media long before they even understand what they see. Most people are fooling around with boys/girls before they even have sex. If you hop on over to the Clearasil and Hormones forum (lol plug...) you'll see in the sex discussion thread most people didn't see losing their virginity as a big deal, most certainly not as a "loss of innocence".

LOL plug PHAIL

Sharpshooter

Dudess wrote: »

If he gets it tonight though you're in deep sh1t...

I saw that as something else altogether.

Terry wrote: »

Have you seen me?

Hasn't everybody?
:pac::pac::pac:

Professey Chin

giggsy664 wrote: »

LOL plug PHAIL

GAH!!!!!Mobile boards on big screen :eek::eek:
Does not compute

AlanSparrowhawk

I was 16/17. I would have got up on a gust of wind if i I could from the age of 12 though but I'm glad it happened how it happened and with who it happened.

alexandros

I think most people lose their virginity to fingers, hands, toys or tampons; not people. (or pandas)

And I always though that waiting till I was 17 and in love (ha) was me being good.

Ash_M

Was 15, but innocence gone well beforehand.
That being said, never regretted it. Actually thought it out first...

Dudess

Sharpshooter wrote: »

I saw that as something else altogether.



Hasn't everybody?
:pac::pac::pac:

LOLZ

Hail 2 Da Chimp

YES! I'm cooler than at least 16 of the people on boards!!!

kraggy

Terry wrote:

Poll edited to cater for those, like myself, who are still innocent.

Zillah wrote:

After Hours, take note! For the next few years, whenever anyone is moderated by Terry, the correct response is "Yeah? Well you're still a virgin!"

Dudess wrote: »

If he gets it tonight though you're in deep sh1t...

So is Terry if he gets it on with a fella :pac:

seanybiker

Terry wrote: »

Mobile?
Fair play for not using text speak.

Poll edited to cater for those, like myself, who are still innocent.

Oops didnt cop onto that. Sorry. I hate text speak.

Disease Ridden

So, assuming a good few people clicked the last one for a laugh, the statistics are something like

15% lose it before 16
60% lose it between 16 and 19 inclusive (myself included!)
25% lose it after age 19 or have not lost it yet

Not really suprising tbh!

Diabhal Beag

I hate hearing that scobies lost their virginity at 12. It must be the worst sex ever

kraggy

Little Shyte wrote: »

I hate hearing that scobies lost their virginity at 12. It must be the worst sex ever

Are you callin my mother a pikey?!

Diabhal Beag

Is she hawwwwwwttt?

Latchy

Actually I had many oppurtunitys to lose it ( my virginity not my innocence ) but I was never in any hurry .In my case it was a one night stand occasion and totally unexpected with somebody I have never seen again since.I was 21

AckwelFoley

I'm still wholesome in the eyes of the church.

I choose this option. "Im still wholesome in the eyes of the church"

sadly the law thinks differently

useful_contacts

i lost mine on christmas day

AckwelFoley

useful_contacts wrote: »

i lost mine on christmas day

no need to ask where santa emptied his sack so.. :pac:

Aisling(",)

i was 15,or maybe still 14 but just because i had sex didnt mean i wasnt innocent.
i was still fairly naive about somethings.

K-9

16/17 seemed to be the norm "in my day" too, though 18/19 wouldn't have been out of the way.

14/15 seems normal for a higher percentage now,which is worrying. Suppose it will be 13/14 next and we'll still get the "sure they aren't necessarily innocent" line!

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

There's optionfor 14...

littletiger

I wonder about the people who said they were not innocent when they did it the first time. Did they remember their johnny, did they know how to put it on etc.... I hate them by the way but that's another story.

Professey Chin

Aisling(",) wrote: »

i was 15,or maybe still 14 but just because i had sex didnt mean i wasnt innocent.
i was still fairly naive about somethings.

I find it absolutely brilliant who thanked this post

towel401

lots of virgins here :pac:

Terry

seanybiker wrote: »

Oops didnt cop onto that. Sorry. I hate text speak.

Spelling mistakes are fine.
Text speak is not.
My post was a compliment.

owenmakken

Does gay sex count? Id imagine seeing how the church does not see homosexuality as legitimate, you would still be considered a virgin in their eyes if all ye did was do gay stuff -

ps - not gay, only rode a man once

dee8839

I was almost 18 when I lost my virginity. I can't say I'm sorry I lost my virginity the way I did because at the time I was so mad about that guy that it was the right thing to do. What I do regret is thinking that I should stay with that guy just because I had already spent that length of time with him. We were so wrong for each other. And yet we stayed together so long that by the time we properly got over each other we had ruined any prospect of friendship. He hates me now and I can't help but think its partially hate and partially love. Wish we had been free to meet others from day 1 instead of wasting our 1st and 2nd year of college on a pointless exercise.

useful_contacts

snyper wrote: »

no need to ask where santa emptied his sack so.. :pac:

ewww

thats d i r t a y :eek: