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I don't know what to make of him.

  • 11-04-2009 8:42am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I joined up around three months ago to an online dating site.

    Got chatting to someone who seems like a nice guy. He's local (when I say local we're from the same county but from different areas.

    We'd often send each other messages and I like hearing from him. He's funny. He suggested a meet up very early on, but the weekend he suggested I was working so couldn't.

    Since then, to be honest I don't know what to make of him.

    One minute he shows interest. The next he doesn't. In that when we're messaging he'd often totally ignore the last meassage I send him. He doesn't acknowledge what I write in it. Then I wouldn't hear from him in a few weeks (three weeks went by where i didn't hear from him even though he was logging onto the site. And then I get a message something like how are you? I reply, he replies, I reply, then nothing then nothing for a week or two or three. And then I'd get another message: How are you?

    So don't know what to do really? So I just ignore him? Should I ignore him the next time he sends me a how are you message. Or will I tell him to feck off.


Comments

  • #2
    Kimia
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,897 ✭✭✭Kimia


    How annoying. I'd just ignore him he's not worth the effort. If he liked you he'd make an effort to speak to you and he's not.

    He also sounds like he could be speaking to other women so don't put all your eggs in his basket - cut your losses I'd say and put it down to experience.


  • #3
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Ignore him.

    Someone who doesn't talk to you for weeks at a time is not interested, and only initiates contact again more likely because of boredom/convenience.


  • #4
    radioactiveman
    Closed Accounts Posts: 324 ✭✭radioactiveman


    with guys it's usually very obvious whether they're really interested or not - it's either one or the other. He could well be stringing a few people on at the same time, just tell him to f off...


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the replies Kimia, magicmarker, and radioactiveman (hope i got your name right there radionactiveman - I just had a quick look at it).

    Yeah I'll ignore him next time he writes to me. God like, I've got a good mind to message him telling him he's an asshole but won't. It would probably boast his ego or something.


  • #6
    NickNolte
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,259 ✭✭✭NickNolte


    Ignore him. No more contact. Ever. Don't reply to any correspondence/ignore him if that functionality is available. Simple as that. :pac:


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  • #7
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Unreg.lady wrote: »
    Thanks for the replies Kimia, magicmarker, and radioactiveman (hope i got your name right there radionactiveman - I just had a quick look at it).

    Yeah I'll ignore him next time he writes to me. God like, I've got a good mind to message him telling him he's an asshole but won't. It would probably boast his ego or something.
    Why would he be an asshole? He hasn't done anything wrong.


  • #8
    Salome
    Closed Accounts Posts: 570 ✭✭✭Salome


    If he was 100% interested in you, you'd know it. I agree with the others, I imagine he's messaging a few women so his messages to you may be vague in order to prevent a mixed message or two.

    I wouldn't bother contacting him or bother to be in contact - you haven't got his full interest so why bother?


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