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Doubting myself?

  • 09-04-2009 7:04pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    im 21 iv had sex twice and both times were crap and i was drunk, 2nd time i was real nervous,i went on the flop after awhile due to nerves i think, 1st time i found it uncomfortable and couldnt finish either time. basicly im doubting my ability to have sex all the time, and its doing my head in. it sometimes feels like my brain will only be happy when i admit that i cant do it, which is ridiculous, but i find it hard to think of alot but sex latelty and cant get it off my mind. im dieing to make amends for my 2 previous sh/te encouinters, i keep on over thinking things, the what ifs,buts and maybes. the fear of going on the flop again,it pathetic really i know this and yet then i keep self doubting myself makes things even worse. basicly im making a big deal out of sex and is causing me to be real nervous when i think about it and yet its something i havent been able to shake off i feel so outside of things as alot of my other friends have girlfriends, and are enjoying a healthy sexlife while im acting like a chicken, how can i get over this?? i just wanta be normal.


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  • #2
    ogriofa
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 353 ✭✭ogriofa


    well, for a start, welcome to the world of sex. EVERYBODY get this. Men & Women. I've never heard of someone who had a good time first time.

    It's all in your head. Really.

    I had some experience of it. The solution was to find a girl i really like (mad I know :)) and fool around. That's it. Bet you get "excited" if you're fooling around on the couch? So what's the difference when youre about to rumpidy bump? Performance anxiety.

    You're totally normal im afraid.

    Find a girl you really like and take it slow. She'll probably like that too.

    Good times ahead!


  • #3
    Terodil
    Closed Accounts Posts: 809 ✭✭✭Terodil


    1. nobody can have sex all the time.

    2. lay off the drink.

    3. don't believe that pron = reality.

    4. take the pressure off yourself. Pressure is a love killer. Try to have a good time. Have sex if you feel like it. Don't if you don't, cuddling and kissing can be a whole world of fun too.


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