First date advice

Copper23

Hi all,
Sorry for the lame post but...

After all my trials and tribulations of not being sble to meet girls... I'm still not good in general but I managed to meet one! She seems really nice and chatty and is pretty cute to match! Not bad, eh?
Well were were texting back and forth and getting on real good. She even said in last text she can't wait to meet up... so I must have made a good impression...


So we're meeting tomorrow. Nothing concrete but it looks like just a few drinks. I know they say dont o drinks or cinema on first date, do some kind of activity...

Anyway the deal is, we agreed to meet up this week. I#ll be away over easter to thought it better to meet up than leave it a week or two....

Ok, way over analysing this...

Just, any advice for the first date? We got on good whjen we met and the texting was going well but you obviously have time to think when texting and stuff... I just dont wanna seem boring or run out of stuff to say over a few hours having drinks or whatever it is....

Sorry for lame post, just appreciate any advice

Queen-Mise

relax and enjoy the company. bring up anything ye have chatted about in texts.

talk safe, chat about hobbies, holidays, gigs been too, movies, what she is doing for a living etc etc. Don't be shy to acknowledge that you are nervous - by all means go to the bathroom once or twice to pull yourself together if you are beginning to feel really nervous.

avoid like the plague anything that vaguely touches on past personal or for that matter the budget also.

banana66

Your post indicates a complete lack of confidence, you need to believe in yourself more or it will become very obvious that you are a boring guy who has no confidence in yourself and the girl will quickly go off you. Dont try to please her, be assertive and believe that you are someone who is desirable and interesting (even if you are not).. Belief is the key and if you dont believe in yourself then no one else will

starchild

ive followed your posts here before & you were having a hard time so first good on ya

just go enjoy it, no talk about exes ! be yourself & all will be fine

good luck

junior_apollo

Show genuine interest in her and get her to do most of the talking... be interesting but most importantly be interested in her and what she has to say... half way through the date asking.. sorry what was your name... isnt good!

Ask a bit about her... if either of ye have travelled chat about that and put in a few anecdotal stories.. (nothing that involves 2 german girls, yourself and a trip to Uluru!)...

Best of luck and hope it all works out for ya...

bubblewrap

Why not go for a pub lunch, I know eating can be scary in front of a new person you are trying to impress but it could fill awkward silences!

The more pressure you put on yourself, the harder it will be. If you are both drinking, try to stay on her level so you don't appear wasted!

Wibbs

First off.. Woohoo! Kudos to you!:D

IMHO? I agree with the other posters. Keep it light. Keep it fun. Avoid emotional stuff like the very plague. I've seen too many blokes spill their guts early on, the woman appearing to think this is sweet and then going off the guy(some of these women were mates of mine so I've seen this up close). So no talk of exes, no talk of how you find it hard to meet and get on with women.

I would disagree with one of Queen-Mise's points(her other points are spot on), re acknowledging your nervousness. OK acknowledge it to yourself, but do not say it to your date. IMHO that generally only works with a guy they reckon is a player type. Makes them feel better that they're having that effect. Now she may well spot your nervous, but that's cool. She'll be nervous too. By saying it out loud half the time it'll make you both more nervous not less.

I wouldnt worry about the setting for the date. Drinks are fine. It's Ireland after all.;):) Do some of the running in the choice of venue. Make two suggestions and ask her opinion. If she says she's fine with either, then you pick one. You don't have to stay there either. If it's a bit of a dull place, then by all means move on to somewhere else.

Good luck anyway:)

LegacyUser

Find out something she is passionate about (movies, gardening, horses, astronomy WHATEVER) and get her talking about that. If you are not THAT interested, try to make the effort to at least appear interested by asking lots of Qs.

Any common ground you can muster in the hobbies/interests department is worth its weight in gold. I remember on my first few rendez-vous with my current lady, she's MAD into cooking. Well I am a bit of a chancer and I know just about enough about cooking to get by, right? But for those few dates I had all the banter. It worked wonders!

Just don't get caught out and the very best of luck to you

StrawDub

Copper23 wrote: »

So we're meeting tomorrow. Nothing concrete but it looks like just a few drinks. I know they say dont o drinks or cinema on first date, do some kind of activity...

I thought there was no beer served tomorrow in bars/off licenses (Good Friday)- do restaurants still serve wine?

Regarding the date, just try relax and chat away to beat the band- try to enjoy the experience!

mardybum

We've got a dry country tomorrow! You could be as well off going for dinner anyway? It can be too tempting to drink quickly when you're nervous.

Dunno where you live, but it can be a good idea to go to somewhere you can have a walk afterwards (if you don't go too late). You know , for example dinner in Bray, walk along the pier afterwards... something a bit different coz then you can both talk about your new surroundings, if you go for a walk after there'll be all kinds of things around you, people, shops etc. It can be a bit more stimulating that sitting in one spot staring at each other.

That_Guy

The old cliche..... Be yourself.

She likes you for who you are so you don't need to change anything.

Just don't start a conversation with "So...... sex.."

SarahSassy

Well tomorrow is Good Friday so going for a drink is out....

Looks like cinema or a walk etc... Dont make it a long date. Meet at 9.30 or so in case you do run out of conversation

zxcvbnm1

The OPs first post was at 12.15 a.m. today.

So presumably when he said tomorrow night he actually meant tonight.

SarahSassy

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

The OPs first post was at 12.15 a.m. today.

So presumably when he said tomorrow night he actually meant tonight.

Well then he should have posted before midnight if he meant today :cool:

Hazys

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

The OPs first post was at 12.15 a.m. today.

So presumably when he said tomorrow night he actually meant tonight.

Another tip make sure you turn up on the right day for your date!