Girlfriend is to 'tight'

LegacyUser

Recently started having sex with my girl but have yet to penetrat her properly as she was far too tight.

Havent had too many sexually partners so dont really know if its normal or just a unique case.

Tried doing a bit of research and it seems its pretty common in girls that might also be inexperienced and nervous. Anyone else have similar problems?

I've tried slipping it in and it just seems Im hitting a brick wall. Dick is kind of bending back and dont want to hurt myself or her for trying so hard.

I watch a lot of porn and it just seems to slide right in. Obvious these girls take it like its their job but I was under the impression that all girls are like this.

Foreplay is obviously present to before I try slide it in, shes well wet. How do I brake this problem to her, dont want to make her feel bad when I appear out of nowhere with lubriant.

LegacyUser

The bf and I had similar problems. Neither of us were virgins but I hadn't had sex for about a year. The more frustrated we got, the less likely it was for anything to happen. I'd been a bit stressed over non-relationship-based stuff and I get the feeling that was the reason I couldn't relax 'cause about a month and a half ago I was much less stressed and worried, and things worked.

I don't have advice except maybe to keep an eye out for sources of stress (if she's inexperienced, that could be making her worried) and help her relax; also, you could postpone penetrative sex and just try mutual masturbation and oral sex for a while until she's more comfortable or relaxed, if that is the source of the problem.

beth-lou

You need to talk to her. She sounds nervous. Be gentle and open and patient. Ask her if this as happened before.

And don't use pornography as reference material for sex. It will end in disaster, especially if you're with an inexperience girl. Plus you might be left disapointed.

jimzy

put on some barry white & turn down the lights...

SheRa

Unregistered wrote: »

Recently started having sex with my girl but have yet to penetrat her properly as she was far too tight.

Havent had too many sexually partners so dont really know if its normal or just a unique case.

Tried doing a bit of research and it seems its pretty common in girls that might also be inexperienced and nervous. Anyone else have similar problems?

I've tried slipping it in and it just seems Im hitting a brick wall. Dick is kind of bending back and dont want to hurt myself or her for trying so hard.

I watch a lot of porn and it just seems to slide right in. Obvious these girls take it like its their job but I was under the impression that all girls are like this.

Foreplay is obviously present to before I try slide it in, shes well wet. How do I brake this problem to her, dont want to make her feel bad when I appear out of nowhere with lubriant.

Im only going to say this once. PORN SEX BEARS VERY LITTLE RESEMBLANCE TO REAL LIFE SEX.

Dont even bring up the "oh it looks easier on porn" issue or just bring lubricant into the bedroom all of a sudden. FFS you'll give the girl a lifetime complex.

Ok thats great that theres foreplay and that she's wet, but she probably isn't relaxed enough and so tenses up when you penetrate her. You just need to take your time and be gentle and have more foreplay, much more:).

It sounds like she is inexperienced too and maybe too embarressed to bring it up, thinking that she is weird. Well she isn't it's perfectly normal and when she is more comfortable in bed with you I bet that she'll relax more.

ellie1

Obvious these girls take it like its their job but I was under the impression that all girls are like this.

If you are under the impression that all women are like women in porn then maybe you shouldnt be having sex.:rolleyes:

LegacyUser

Its all to do with being nervous , she has to be completly relaxed otherwise it will tense. Sorry if this is TMI but you should try going in and out slowly and each time you go back in you will see it will have gotten that little bit more "open" and do this slowly ( dont push , when you feel the "brick wall" as you put it, just go back out again ). you will also find its quite a turn on for both involved as you get deeper and deeper. Again sorry if this is TMI . Hope that helps!

Dublin_Gunner

Suggest to her that you like to have a lot more foreplay before penetration - not only is this great for getting your own juices flowing, but she should loosen up quite a bit more, and you should begin to find it easier to get inside.

You should also maybe try position with her legs more open, or from different angles if that could be the issue.

Main thing is to get her more loose and comfortable - so maybe if you could get her to reach orgasm before penetrative sex, that would help a lot.

Wibbs

jimzy if you've nothing helpful to post refrain from posting and read the charter of this forum.

jimzy

it works for me wibbs.

LegacyUser

dude, if you cant penetrate then the girl definitely knows, trust me! I've been there.
Shes's probably nervous and is tightening her muscles without realising. If thats the case, you appearing with lubricant will not help. Talking to her will though, ya need to be reassuring here.
Theres another possibility that it could be purely physical, it was with me, but thats for her to discuss with a doctor really.

beggars_bush

happened with me and my ex. she was very tight and really concious about it. despite her being in late 20s and not a virgin. it was very frustrating.

took her away for a weekend. spent the day in bed. very very slowly got her wet, using fingers, oral sex. hour or two of that, and her well satisfied and it was much easier to penentrate her and it was just a 'nice' tightness. she claimed it was the best sex ever.

pity she was a bit mental in the end

LegacyUser

She may feel very nervous so i think a day spent together alone, getting comfortable with each other, a nice dinner, and gentle relaxed foreplay will help her relax. Maybe a drink or two? Not enough to get her smashed but it always relaxes me more before sex!

Gyalist

You need to take a step back before you try to make two steps forward.

At this stage you have to completely remove your focus from penetration. This is very important so you also need to communicate clearly to her that you won't be trying to penetrate as she's probably nervous and tightening up in anticipation of feeling pain from your attempts to penetrate. Learn to give her sensual massages so that she gets used to the intimacy of your touch and being relaxed in your presence. Let her know that you will leave it up to her to decide when she is ready to move to the next stage.

When she thinks that she is ready for penetration make sure that she is on top so that she can control the speed and depth of penetration.

This could take a while so you both will have to explore other ways of pleasing each other.

Dudess

Ok, you say you practise foreplay and she's really wet but the problem is still there - then do MORE foreplay. And more and more and more and more! Have her to a point where she is aching to be penetrated.

Dublin_Gunner

Dudess wrote: »

Ok, you say you practise foreplay and she's really wet but the problem is still there - then do MORE foreplay. And more and more and more and more! Have her to a point where she is aching to be penetrated.

Unless of course the problem is a physical one - the key doesn't fit the lock so to speak.

But generally, after enough playing, you could fit any size penis/toy in comfortably.

Personally, I nearly find foreplay better than actual sex anyway, so the more the merrier - and I've yet to find a female who wasn't entirely grateful for it either.

LegacyUser

Do what beggars bush says. Worked for me. Take your time and relax and it will happen.

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