How do I find out if she likes me?

KieranKennedy

I have gotten to know a girl over the last few months, and I realise now that I actually really like her. We are both single and I would really like to get closer to her. I want to tell her formally that I like her, but I just can't do it because I don't know if she likes me. We get along well, and we have spent hours chatting on facebook. She almost always initiates conversation. I really like her but I have no real way of knowing if she thinks of me as anything more than a friend. Are their any signs which I can look out for that might give me a clue?

prinz

When you tell her you like her..... her answer is usually a pretty big clue.

LegacyUser

Im in the same boat as you - I like a guy - got to know him over the last few months and chat whenever on facebook together - getting mixed signals from him etc dunno what to do, if I didnt know any better Id say it was you I fancy ha ha cos the stories match up!

TheInquisitor

KieranKennedy wrote: »

I have gotten to know a girl over the last few months, and I realise now that I actually really like her. We are both single and I would really like to get closer to her. I want to tell her formally that I like her, but I just can't do it because I don't know if she likes me. We get along well, and we have spent hours chatting on facebook. She almost always initiates conversation. I really like her but I have no real way of knowing if she thinks of me as anything more than a friend. Are their any signs which I can look out for that might give me a clue?

Drop the hand...if she calls the guards then id take that as a no(or playing hard to get)

Wibbs

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Nitxteha

Ask her out for a coffee, if she says yes..she may like you. Bring in conversation something comming up (concert, exhibition, film..) that she may like and if she shows any interest you say casually: maybe we could go sometime next week (very casual). If she says yes, she likes you. The following week, you text her asking out for that film, concert (whatever excuse). If texts back and says yes, she likes you

If she's not interested in any of these, she doesn't like you. Good luck!

Ave Sodalis

Do you talk other than facebook and the internet.??

If so, does she smile when shes talking to you and laughs at things you already told her? If so she probably does. Ask her, its the only sure way. If she says yes well its all good. If she says no, shel still feel good about haven been asked, so you have nothin to lose. Go for it!

MadgeBadge

Flirting, flirting is the way to find out if they fancy you. It's also extremely good fun. You can start of lightly, like by complimenting, some innocent touching and see how they respond. That's how I work it out.

KieranKennedy

sup_dude wrote: »

Do you talk other than facebook and the internet.??

If so, does she smile when shes talking to you and laughs at things you already told her? If so she probably does. Ask her, its the only sure way. If she says yes well its all good. If she says no, shel still feel good about haven been asked, so you have nothin to lose. Go for it!

Yeah I talk to her in real life too. We get along well, I am pretty sure we find each other funny and that we get along really well.

I can't ask her yet, I can't be sure if she actually does like me. If I tell her before finding out I run the risk of awkwardness between us. I think I am also a tiny bit worried that she will say that she doesn't feel the same way, so the possibility of either is still open now, which feels better than the certainty in the situation of a negative response. I wont ask her until I know whether or not she likes me. How have other people figured this out before?

KieranKennedy

MadgeBadge wrote: »

Flirting, flirting is the way to find out if they fancy you. It's also extremely good fun. You can start of lightly, like by complimenting, some innocent touching and see how they respond. That's how I work it out.

Cheers, that is the kind of thing I was looking for.

Flirting in itself is tricky I find though, as we get along well some level of flirting will always be accepted, but there might be a boundary there somewhere that I don't know of. I would like a more indirect route, as pushing the boundaries in flirting could amount to as much as straight up telling her I like her if you get me.

shellyboo

KieranKennedy wrote: »

I can't ask her yet, I can't be sure if she actually does like me. If I tell her before finding out I run the risk of awkwardness between us. I think I am also a tiny bit worried that she will say that she doesn't feel the same way, so the possibility of either is still open now, which feels better than the certainty in the situation of a negative response. I wont ask her until I know whether or not she likes me. How have other people figured this out before?

They don't. They take the risk. There's no way to be 100% sure until you actually ask her.

And you "run the risk of awkwardness"? So? Hardly the end of the world if there's a bit of awkwardness.

redfacedbear

shellyboo wrote: »

They don't. They take the risk. There's no way to be 100% sure until you actually ask her.

And you "run the risk of awkwardness"? So? Hardly the end of the world if there's a bit of awkwardness.

+1.

OP, when I was your age I was a master at 'laying groundwork' before asking somebody out - it got me nowhere.

Sometimes you've got to bite the bullet and just go for it. Yes that sometimes leads to 'awkwardness' and knock-backs, but it also means you know where you stand.

KieranKennedy

shellyboo wrote: »

They don't. They take the risk. There's no way to be 100% sure until you actually ask her.

And you "run the risk of awkwardness"? So? Hardly the end of the world if there's a bit of awkwardness.

Oh man

That sucks

shellyboo

KieranKennedy wrote: »

Oh man

That sucks

Which would you rather, a moment of awkardness or a lifetime of uncertainty? Bite the bullet and do it, ffs!

Snowie

OP dont tell her you like her!

My experence of telling I liked them went know where.. how ever when ever ive played it casual shall we say they've put in more interest...

Ask her out for a coffee, dont tell her you like her serously man women love to hear men say that and always say oh tell her...

But when they hear them selves there like ughhhh, lose interest, they like to wonder does he like me does he not etc its true... It keeps you in the forfront of thier mind....

Its a bad thing I promise you op from some one whos done it ...

Just call her up and ask do you want to go for a coffee.....

Ave Sodalis

KieranKennedy wrote: »

I can't ask her yet, I can't be sure if she actually does like me. If I tell her before finding out I run the risk of awkwardness between us. I think I am also a tiny bit worried that she will say that she doesn't feel the same way, so the possibility of either is still open now, which feels better than the certainty in the situation of a negative response. I wont ask her until I know whether or not she likes me. How have other people figured this out before?

Dont worry about awkwardness. I thought I would have the same problem with a good friend I liked. But I didnt. It worked actually.

I know that if was asked, id feel almost honoured more than awkward.

If it goes arse ways, just make a joke out of it to lighten the mood.