Kissed my friend

LegacyUser

I kissed one of my good friends last nite. I was drunk and he was drunk. I feel bad now cause i think he has feelings for me have always thought it really.I shouldnt have done anything about it cause i dont fancy him. What do i do? i dont want things to be weird...

Diddler82

Apologise for the mistake (assuming you were drunk) which obviously it was and then just tell him you just want to be friends.

If he is a true friend he will accept that. If he gets a bit ars3y about it, well then he is only friends with you because he fancies you.

Not much more can be said on it really...it happens the best of us.

LegacyUser

should i just text him and say i dont want things to be awkward and leave it at that and see wat he says...

star-pants

I think you should talk to him - just say that you know ye were both drunk and kissed but that that was all it was. A drunken kiss, that you like him as a friend and nothing more and sorry if he thought otherwise.

LegacyUser

do i really have to chat to him cant i just leave it and see how it goes also ha had asked me yestersday evening to a wedding with him should i go?

kavanaa1

It happens all the time... your nothing special, this morning I have already kissed 3 good friends (one of which was a guy !)

entropi

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should i just text him and say i dont want things to be awkward and leave it at that and see wat he says...

These things are much better said in person, its more sincere and personal and hopefully the guy will accept it:)

LD 50

You can also get your point accross better when you speak in person. Texting removes all tone and feeling from what you're trying to say.

Giblet

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do i really have to chat to him cant i just leave it and see how it goes also ha had asked me yestersday evening to a wedding with him should i go?

You can go, but make sure that for ever reason you do you, that you let him know you don't want anything. The invite could be a way of asking you out, Make your feelings very clear!

Telling him that while you may be flattered, you don't see him in that way is a quick and non hurtful way of saying how you feel. It's not nice having to say that to anyone, but letting him know that you don't feel that way about him will avoid any confusion and hopefully let him know where he stands.

Overheal

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do i really have to chat to him cant i just leave it and see how it goes also ha had asked me yestersday evening to a wedding with him should i go?

you can do whatever you like, but in my experience its a much easier thing to accept in person.

Wedding: you have to pause a moment and think, do you want to go with him as a friend, or as a date? When you know what you want, you need to ask him that same question I think. He may tell you he wants something more and you may not be ready for that (if ever) in which case you need to make your position clear - preferably in person. Digital conversation is wildly open to misinterpretation. But I mean hey, weddings are fun. And you may actually like this guy on a somewhat more-than-platonic level.

MagicMarker

There is never really much point in being friends with a guy who fancies you, because he doesn't want to be your friend.

OP say nothing to your friend is my advice unless he brings it up.
Act as normal untill then,he may not bring it up at all even.

If I kiss even on the mouth when drunk at say new years eve or Xmas, or while dancing or at a party,it's not a proposal of marriage.
If I want something to happen,then I'll drop a not very subtle hint when sober.
How else is anyone meant to know something!

If I get the No way vibe [it's happened and sometimes it's not happened ] then I leave it period and thats it... another lost chance for someone who don't know what they are missing

Theres no need in my book for awkwardness or long drawn out discussions about it.
Move on get on is the motto.

Regarding going to the wedding.
No I would say don't go if you do not want the "conversation".
If you do want to go,then it's a good open opportunity to have that discussion and to lay it on the line as to it being platonic.

Loomis

Not wanting to talk to him in person suggests you're a bit immature and want to ignore the issue. You said you thought he had feelings for you before so kissing him was a fairly selfish and stupid thing to have done. Drink is no excuse.
Talk to him in person and apologise for it as, from his point of view, you lead him on by kissing him. If he accepts then give it some time to get your friendship back to normal.

apologize and then think about what your doing. stop drinking so much if you don't know the difference between a friend and someone you fancy.

Dravokivich

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do i really have to chat to him cant i just leave it and see how it goes also ha had asked me yestersday evening to a wedding with him should i go?

My guess is, that he thinks your on for being together...

... I'd like to hear how you plan to go about this without talking to him...

Personally... i'd rather if there was time to meet up and talk about it...

Just sending a txt or ignoring it is rude and confusing...

If you're so certain of your position in this, let him know, but be sure to tell him as a friend and not someone that just wants to break away from something that can be messy...

LegacyUser

i am going to see my friend on friday as we had previous plans and i decided if he wanted to talk about it fair anough, but i am not bringing it up. i text him yesterday just the usual chit chat and no text back which is so unlike him he always textes back within a couple of hours and if not he will ring, still no word texted him at 12 yersterday afternoon, ahhh, dont wanna loose him as a friend. i forget to mention, i told him the last nite us kissin was weird and went to bed, he is obviously cracked with me.