Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

A bit shy

  • 05-04-2009 4:34am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    My problem is that i can't talk to girls at all. I'm completely the opposite with guys face to face or texting but i have a bit of anxiety on the phone and talking to new people and stuff. I really noticed this with one girl who i kinda like but amn;t considering pursuing, I'm always a bit shy about her except when langered when i would flirt and joke with her and ****. Now I'm sure she knows i like hr and this makes me even more awkward with her... HELP ME


Comments

  • #2
    robd55
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 48 ✭robd55


    Hi,

    I have had the same problem when around a girl I fancied before. The only way I see out is if you thinks she realises you fancy is her is to bite the bullet and ask her out. If she says yes happy days if she says no at least you know dont take it too hard and move on. The whole shy around girls things no easy answer there other than experience. Talk to girls as much as possible and be used to being around them a good example is go into like the perfume counter or clothes store etc and approach good looking girl and say you are looking for gift for mum/sis/gran whatever and just get talking. Do this often enough and it will make you more comfortable with women. Its easy to say do it but you have to force yourself. Hope this helps.


  • #3
    merlie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 673 ✭✭✭merlie


    You need to work on your self esteem and confidence. Don't forget she can be nervous too but maybe not show it. Sometimes the inner feelings you experience being shy etc., may not show outwardly. You need to take time and if you like this girl a lot and you want to take the next step and ask her out, then you need to work on your confidence.

    Here are some links I have found which may be of help to you.


    http://www.self-confidence.co.uk/self.html



    http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-talk-to-people-better-communication-skills

    http://www.videojug.com/film/how-can-i-look-more-approachable-2


    http://www.videojug.com/film/how-can-i-make-a-good-first-impression-2

    http://www.videojug.com/film/how-can-i-look-more-confident

    Hope that helps.

    Good luck


  • #4
    CDfm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    nervousguy wrote: »
    I'm always a bit shy about her except when langered when i would flirt and joke with her and ****. Now I'm sure she knows i like hr and this makes me even more awkward with her... HELP ME

    Are you friendly with any girls as friends to hang out with. It really is a practice thing being friends with women.

    I am confident in other ways but with a woman I like very shy. When I started dating my OH I had to be less cautious. I put my foot in it loads of times but if she likes you too she will ignore it.


Advertisement