Condom dillema - going soft

LegacyUser

hey folks, just looking for a bit of advice.
bit of background,
so im a guy in my mid 20's who has only had 2 sexual partners, who both turned into girlfriends for a period. the first girl had issues regarding sex and which meant it rarely happened and when it did it rarely came to its natural conclusion, which resulted in me being very inexperienced and frustrated, in short she was f$£%ing useless in bed.

G2 came along and she was like a nympho in comparison or maybe just normal?, sex was very regular and enjoyable, but she was on the pill so we didnt use condoms, it felt great.

so im with neither girl now, and the other night i met this new girl and,after a few dates, we got down to business, when the condom went on, things started to go soft pretty quickly so the job didnt get done. im not used to wearing them and when they go on its very difficult to maintain a stiffy. ive been told i have very large girth and i do find condoms tight and a bit uncomfortable, could this be a factor? also fear of what might (not) happen probably affects it too?
i know id be grand if i didnt have to wear the damed things but thats not really an option, is there anything that can be done? i even took 4 (the box says take 1) of those 'original little blue pill' enhancer tablets you get from a sex shop in preparation for that night and it didnt work, what the hell is wrong? im healthy and in shape, only had one drink tht night and dont smoke. any herbal stuff i could take, ginseng perhaps???? i had a medical to to with work and was told i was grand but had a very slow pulse of 42 (whatever that means). i dont really want to go to a Dr about this so any advice or info would be usefull, im at the end of my wick, i just want to be able to lob it into her without going floppy !!!!

Nevyn

Condoms come in a range of sizes, seems you need find ones which fit you properly.

http://www.menstruation.com.au/fertility/condomsize.html

A recent survey by Durex Condoms revealed that the length of an erect penis can range from four to nine inches, while penis widths can vary from just over one inch to more than two inches. The Durex study also found that 50% of the almost 3,000 survey respondents felt that the condoms they regularly used did not fit properly; 25% said the condoms were "too tight," 10% said they were "much too tight," and 15% responded that the condoms were "too loose" or "much too loose." Not surprisingly, 42% of those surveyed indicated that condoms should be "better shaped." A whopping 44% of those surveyed reported they had experienced condom slippage or breakage problems in the past.

The Durex study concluded, "Given the wide range of penis sizes and the relatively narrow range of condoms designed to fit them, it is perhaps unsurprising to find that 50% of respondents felt that the condoms they use did not fit them properly. The answers provided also indicate that condoms which don't fit properly are more likely to break during use..."

Another study performed by La Trobe University in Australia examined the effect of penis dimension on the probability of complete condom slippage and/or condom breakage in actual use. A total of 3,658 condoms were used by 184 men. Over the course of the study, 16% of the men experienced at least one instance of breakage and 19% experienced complete slippage. The study concluded that condom breakage was strongly associated with penis circumference, particularly for men with above-average girth. In fact, each additional centimeter of penis circumference beyond the average 13.19 cm increased the risk of breakage by 50-100%. Like the Durex study, the researchers concluded, "This finding suggests a need to increase either the range of condom sizes currently available or the [girth] of currently available condoms."

Erection Rejection

It is no secret that many men dislike wearing condoms. Some Men say that condoms interfere with sex, "get in way," or "kill the mood." Most of the time however, these problems arise because the man has difficulty putting on the condom, or is concerned that the darn thing may slip off.

If a condom is difficult to put on due to size issues, the little soldier may suddenly be unable to stand at attention. A survey conducted by the University of Sydney, Australia found that two-thirds of the men surveyed reported they "sometimes" or "often" lost their erection while trying to put on a condom. Of course without an erection, a condom is impossible to put on at all.

While many men struggle to put on ill-fitting condoms that are too small, many others experience anxiety that the condom may slip off their slimmer girth. This anxiety can also interfere with the ability to keep the flag at full mast. Condoms that are too loose increase the odds of slippage or leakage.

Paradoxically, one of the most common reasons condoms slip off is because they are too tight or too long - if not fully rolled down, the ring at the base can enter the man's partner and be dragged off. Condoms that are too short also increase the risk of exposure to STDs. When condoms are too tight, breakage and slippage is more likely to occur, and sensitivity can be significantly diminished.

The reality is that condom size is very important. Unfortunately, unlike penises, most condoms around the world today are made in a very narrow range of sizes. In fact, the overwhelming majority of condoms do not refer to size at all, and simply are marketed as a "one size fits all" product. While a few companies like Trojan have shown some sensitivity to the size issue by producing some larger sized models, very few such products exist, and even fewer are available for those needing a snugger fit. Millions of men continue to struggle with the "one size fits all" mentality that the condom manufacturers apply to condom size, often leading to very unfortunate results. Given the inherent difficulties in measuring customers to ensure a more tailored condom fit, condom producers simply continue to force round pegs into square holes.

Find a condom type that fits you and then get used to wearing them by masterbating with one on.

Joey the lips

blue pills are placebo's Viagra is the only success story and is not avaiable without prescription and the net is not a reliable source

Try the ribbed condoms. I am telling to much her but I dont wear them cause my wife does not like them. But occassionallly I have to and I notice extra safe to thick so I start using ribbed.

Try these they should work

LegacyUser

Had *exactly* your problem dude, so I can sympathise.

Firstly, I would recommend Durex Pleasuremax condoms for gentlemen afflicted (??) with the broader girth. They come in a pink packet and go straight on, unlike many other brands which I have almost injured myself trying to stretch on. They are dear though.

Secondly, I've experienced going soft, just like you, and expecially when it comes to putting on the johnny. Only EVER happens with a new girl funnily enough, so I think it's nerves but it was HORRIBLE before I managed to lose my virginity. I'd get her clothes off then all of a sudden wft? It's gone! The you start thinking you're going to lose your stalk when you DO manage to get one and that makes it even worse.

It's probably in your head, because it was that way with me. It took an understanding and patient girl for me to get over it and I havent had this problem since then. A viagra might sort you out but be wary of getting dependant on it.

KlodaX

Your pulse is slow which could be normal for you, you being fit, or an under active thyroid. Are you tired in general ? have you been gaining weight?
Best bet is to see your GP for a thyroid test (just bloods) You don't have to mention your "condom dillema" just ask for a thyroid test. Check online for any of the other symptoms. Hypothyroidism.

I'm just saying this because you mentioned your pulse, and I'm sure hypothyroidism affects your sex drive.

Joey the lips

KlodaX wrote: »

Your pulse is slow which could be normal for you, you being fit, or an under active thyroid. Are you tired in general ? have you been gaining weight?
Best bet is to see your GP for a thyroid test (just bloods) You don't have to mention your "condom dillema" just ask for a thyroid test. Check online for any of the other symptoms. Hypothyroidism.

I'm just saying this because you mentioned your pulse, and I'm sure hypothyroidism affects your sex drive.

Your thyroid does effect your sex drive. I dont suffer with it but have a friend who confided in me so thats all I can say.

bigpinkelephant

Trojan do a range of Large condoms, as far as I know they are available in Boots. Check the width of the condoms you have (will be on the back of the box) and compare, I think the Trojan ones are a couple of mm wider- it makes all the difference!

CDfm

Guys can get dehydrated and that can lower your blood pressure and affects your erection. So you need to make sure you take your daily recommeded intake of water which is around 2 litres and it may take a week or more to get this normal.

Especially important if you enjoy a few pints or drink lots of coffee which acts as a diuretic -when its called brewers droop.

LegacyUser

this is purely a confidence thing just keep trying and be completely honest with your sexual partner they wont mind in the slightest!!!


the stuff about the thyroid is rubbish.

SheRa

Unregistered wrote: »

this is purely a confidence thing just keep trying and be completely honest with your sexual partner they wont mind in the slightest!!!


the stuff about the thyroid is rubbish.

It does sound like a confidence thing alright. Any girlfriend worth keeping wont be put off by it and should be understanding with you. But do reassure her that its not her. Ok it may seem obivous to you that you are still sexually attracted to her but tell her that.

catratbat

Happened to my man as well when we first started going out. SheRa's right, If she genuinely likes ye and you're honest about it you will get the mojo back. So much of it is psychological, it took little while but it was well worth the wait There are other ways on 'entertaining' yourselves 'til ye get going again...The larger size condoms are a good idea too...

aare

Thaedydal wrote: »

Condoms come in a range of sizes, seems you need find ones which fit you properly.

http://www.menstruation.com.au/fertility/condomsize.html



Find a condom type that fits you and then get used to wearing them by masterbating with one on.

Have to second that emotion...practice makes perfect...

Good luck...and STAY SAFE.

Snowie

hey Op this http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html
could be really helpfull to....

also avoid condoms with the thickness of a marigold

LegacyUser

I don't know if this works but I read ages ago that a small amount of lube (like ky jelly, defo not vaseline or baby oil-they damage the rubber) inside the condom provides a better sensation.