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  • 03-04-2009 12:57pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm in my mid twenties and my OH is in his late twenties. We have a 4 month old baby. Today he is going to find out whether he has a job or not. If he doesn't we are screwed as he works with foreigners and these jobs are thin on the ground. If he was to get another job it would be abroad. And thats just it, i don't want to move abroad, never really had the urge to leave when i was younger not even for a gap year. One of main reasons is that my parents are getting older and they won't be able to come out to wherever we are in 10 years time. The other is my baby i don't want him brought up in a foreign country with no family around him and also that we won't have any back up when it comes to childminding etc. I know plenty of the Eastern Europeans have done this and fair fe<k to them but its.just.not.me.
    I'm not good with meeting people, I'm quiet and reserved person. I do have a job to go back to in a few weeks, its good pay for my career but not enough for 3 people to survive on. We don't have ties here as in a mortgage or loans. Am i just being selfish? Do i need a boot up my arse?


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  • #2
    aare
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    You need to stop working yourself into a rare old tizz over something that might never happen...

    That's MY job, if you don't mind? :)

    You know how you feel about all the issues, and what your priorities are, in the abstract, so there is nothing left to think out until you know exactly what is happening, and see if that changes any aspect of the way you feel before you make any final decisions.

    These really are terrifying times, not because life is unkind, that's normal, what is so frightening is that, at present, you get more time to see the most likely problems coming...whether they eventually arrive or not.

    As far as I can see, the only way to stay sane through this is to learn to focus on living in the moment, even while you keep a very objective eye on the future.

    So until the storm breaks, sit back and enjoy this precious time with your baby...because there is nothing else you can do, so why waste that magic?


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    thanks aare, i know i shouldn't be thinkin what if and Usually I'm very optimistic and enjoy things and just say whatever will be will be. just i don't see a way around not moving but anyway as u say it might never happen! OH just rang to say one of them has been let go but it'll be open for next week and they just have to take it week by week, so at least thats something.


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