Boyfriend on holiday - paranoia

LegacyUser

Before I even begin, I know what most of these responses will be- relax and let the man enjoy himself. I'm aware I'm probably being silly but the old mind is racing. He's away for only six days in Stockholm with 13 friends, male and female, who he went to college with. So worried about him getting too drunk or sick or being with someone else that I can't eat or sleep and I feel like any text I send is annoying him, etc etc. Someone either tell me I'm being silly or let me know I'm not the only girl in the world who worries about things like this. Still quite a new relationship so we're still building the trust bridge... really wrecking the head, this whole situation. Help!

underflowers

You're definitely not alone! I think it's perfectly normal to feel like that but most people just don't admit it. The best advice I would give you is to try and keep distracted while he's away. The worst thing you can do is sit around thinking about it and driving yourself crazy. So make it your goal to stay as busy as possible. Arrange that you'll text/call at a certain time everyday and then you won't feel like you're nagging. Think this is a girl thing so don't expect your OH to understand!!

Katgurl

Ah you poor thing. at least you know you're being silly. as the above poster said, keep busy! don't start harassign him. One text a day & leave it at that. He'll probably come back suffering withdrawal for you.

To keep you focused let me tell you I had shoe on other foot last year when i went away & my then-boyfriend drove me crazy, snippy text messages, sulks if i didn't pick up phone (i was at a wedding with a million relatives & it wasn't always possible) accusations about not missing him, fury at not having invited him (it wasn't possible) etc. Nightmare. Not enough to put me off him but i felt a little resentful that he wasn't just happy for me to go off and have a good time & also couldnt' understant why he didn't entirely trust me.

So fill up the diary now with stuff to do for next 5 days!!! if possible even leave your phone at home. Absence makes the heart grow fonder don't forget.

Wurly

Katgurl wrote: »

Ah you poor thing. at least you know you're being silly. as the above poster said, keep busy! don't start harassign him. One text a day & leave it at that. He'll probably come back suffering withdrawal for you.

To keep you focused let me tell you I had shoe on other foot last year when i went away & my then-boyfriend drove me crazy, snippy text messages, sulks if i didn't pick up phone (i was at a wedding with a million relatives & it wasn't always possible) accusations about not missing him, fury at not having invited him (it wasn't possible) etc. Nightmare. Not enough to put me off him but i felt a little resentful that he wasn't just happy for me to go off and have a good time & also couldnt' understant why he didn't entirely trust me.

So fill up the diary now with stuff to do for next 5 days!!! if possible even leave your phone at home. Absence makes the heart grow fonder don't forget.

That is excellent advice.:)

nedoo

Trust takes time to build. I think we all feel this way, espically when we think our BF or GF is the hottest thing around, how cant all others feel this way about her/him. Its natural.
You have to fight it, one sweet text a day, let him have his fun. He is prob takling about you and missing you as much as you are.
Good luck with it all.