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Dealing with Secrecy

  • 03-04-2009 12:37am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I come from a country where it's OK to keep things secret, I was actually brought up in former USSR. I don't really like talking about what I'm up to sometimes - I just don't like pouring out every one of my plans and ideas, etc.

    What worries me is whenever I get some success and people who are not even my close friends change attitude towards me. They sometimes think I'm getting it by a fluke or I'm cheating.

    Is it a custom in Ireland to be more open and extroverted? Should I try to change my attitude towards keeping private opinions and plans?


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  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Unregistered wrote: »
    Is it a custom in Ireland to be more open and extroverted?

    Yes.
    Having come from the country myself, there is one thing we can all agree on, gossip in the country is rife. Seriously, any time I go visit my parents, they will know half the towns business.
    It can be an awful invasion of privacy to someone who is not used to it. In fact, even though I'm used to it, I still consider it an awful invasion of privacy.
    Many old biddies have nothing else to do with there time bar talking about Mary down the road who just got pregnant by that bloke from the next town. etc...
    Should I try to change my attitude towards keeping private opinions and plans?

    Only if you want to.
    If it's a small town, be outgoing and friendly, if you wish to remain private, do so.


  • #3
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    there's definitely a culture gap between western and eastern europe when it comes to privacy. I work with some Romanian guys and some Russian guys and it would be natural for me to ask them stupid questions like where they went to school and what they did over the weekend etc and I've noticed that sometimes they ask me why I'm asking. I can totally understand that, I guess growing up where they did, it was natural to be suspicious of people you don't really know asking what you're up to. We're a naturally curious people, the Irish, and usually will talk about things that are quite personal, we just assume everyone else is the same.


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