Lonely and frustrated.....

LegacyUser

ok this is more of a rant than anything, but this is getting me real down. im nearly 27, out of a long term relationship about 8 months ago. thing is i really hate being single at the moment. im sick of it. lately i am really missing being able to do nice things. as sad as this sounds, i have alot of fun/love to offer. but all my friends either have long term gf's, kids or are unemployed. they all have other commitments at the moment. so not only can i not book a holiday, a weekend away etc...(which i really miss doing), i cant even find anyone to go out into town at weekends so that i can meet new girls. i really wanna just get away for a few days but there is no-one to go with. the most my mates can afford or have time for at the moment is a few in the local. i work in decent job and have been out with a few girls from work on dates but unfortunatly there is no-one i really fancy in work and cant see that changing anytime soon. so my life feels like its in a rut, im spending my weekends in the local with the same faces, just so i feel im out and about. the previous 5 years of my life has been all about, meals in new places, weekends away, holidays, doing different things at weekends etc..im not the best at meeting girls anyway but i at least wanna be in the position where im giving myself a chance!!!! anyone got any suggestions?

Overheal

Would you consider a pet companion?

John Mason

why cant you go away for weekends or on holiday

bluecell99

at least you had a few years of this stability at such a young age - many people would love to have had this success and for such a length of time.You are still in your twenties!!Why all the rush and the need to do things with soemone.Challenge yourself and make new friends.You dont need to be part of a couple.You will become stronger and see that life can be enjoyed as a single person also.

Take a breather;no need for panic.If a new relationship is meant to happen then it will.At least give yourself a chance to sample life in your new situation.

Over dependancy and desperation are not that attractive in anyone.Sit back,enjoy and relax.

Cormb

often clubs or a societies are a good way to meet people.

a new interest or hobby might open up a few doors for you in this regard.

Would you feel weird going away on your own for a few days?
I know people who have done it and have loved it.
I even head down the country to relations the odd time (albeit to people I know) - I find that a good way of escaping the "rat race".

Soul Stretcher

It seems to me like you are a pretty social guy.... which is a Great thing....

You just need to get that little extra boost from somewhere... to get you over the edge.

I know it is great when you have friends to share holidays/weekends away with but...

it is possible to do these things alone AND enjoy them !!

Pick a weekend location that has lots of things going on so you won't be sitting in the hotel room all day... you'd be surprised how much easier it is to make new acquaintances on holiday when you're alone as opposed to being in a group.

As for back home, I'd say join a dance class (crying out for men in salsa classes !!), trad music class - anything to expand your horiszons and get you out of your comfort zone.

Good Luck !

LegacyUser

op here, thanks for the replies so far:

to be honest, i dont like the idea of going away by myself, i hate enough being on my own as it is, the thought of being away somewhere nice and having no-one to share it with would make me feel even more sorry for myself. unfortunatly i have no relationswn the country.

i totally understand i must sound a bit stupid, its just hate that these feelings overcome me alot recently!

LegacyUser

i've noticed that there is alot of advice for single guys to join classes such as salsa, walking etc... to meet new women. op here and i dont have the first idea where to go to join any of these clubs, anyone know where is a good place to start?

Zaph

depressed09 wrote: »

i've noticed that there is alot of advice for single guys to join classes such as salsa, walking etc... to meet new women. op here and i dont have the first idea where to go to join any of these clubs, anyone know where is a good place to start?

Well first up there are forums for every county in Ireland under the Region category. Have a look at your's, you never know, there might be something there. Further afield, try the community notice boards in your local library and/or supermarket, very often these sort of clubs put notices there. If you get a local free newspaper have a look in that too, you might find something that appeals to you. The last place I can suggest is your local community school, they generally run night classes in a wide range of activities, so you might find something there. A friend met a woman he went out with for a while at a car maintenance class in his local school. He said there were actually more women than men in the class as they wanted to learn how do fix minor things themselves without having to rely on men. However he might have just been lucky and I can't guarantee that all car maintenance classes would be the same.

miami2007

dont be depressed09, can see how you feel like that though. there are others in the same boat - your not alone:)

LegacyUser

I am 27, female and out of a serious relationship now 2 years. I felt the same as you, and to be honest sometimes still do.
But, I must say, I have moved to a different country and I'm beginning to discover new things about myself I probably wouldn't have had, if I had of jumped head long into another serious relationship. You spend so much time getting to know someone else, its nice to have this time to rediscover yourself. We are not old

Love is addictive, and worth waiting for. There is no point in being in a relationship just for the sake of it! Enjoy this time alone ... chances are you will meet someone in due time ... who will probably fall for you because of your obvious ability to enjoy your own company (thats if you get out there and do that!)

Best of luck x

LegacyUser

Thanks for the respone FemaleVersion

That is my problem, im out of the relationship 8 months now, i spent a time enjoying going out and drinking and meeting new people. But I really struggle to do things on my own, i end up feeling sorry for myself and think that i am alone. How do i get over this, where do i go to meet similar like people, how can i stop feeling alone? My life of drinking in local and working 9-5 monday to friday is wearing thin!!!! I want to do go do different things, but feel alone cause i have to do them on my own.....Being single is getting the better of me and I dont know how to beat it!

Thing is, everyone who knows me says im very outgoing and I am very good a socialising and meeting new people.....just lack confidence on the inside i think

LegacyUser

I think being on your own makes you more approachable to other people.
Why are you sorry for yourself being on your own?!? you aren't that bad of company are you?? Personally I think you need to find something that interests you, something you could have a passion for ... something to take your mind off being alone. Once you do that you will probably accidently find someone else who has a similar passion. I'm not saying drop everything and go save Gorillas in a rainforest somewhere (unless you fancy that), but is there anything that has always interested you but you haven't had time for? Relationships take time, you have more time now
I'm just trying to plant seeds here.. I hope it helps.