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Victim of abuse

  • 01-04-2009 1:57pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Going unreg for this one
    this is find help for a male victim of domestic abuse.
    Is there any good resources available to help men out in cases where he is beaten contantly by his wife? I really want to help my cousin out but he cannot research anything himself as she has cut off all his contact with anyone or controls it. its at the point he rings his mum from the bathroom and she stands at the otherside of the door listening.
    Theres a child involved and thats why he stays. Im sorry if I seem too vague but theres just not much more I could say without identifying him in some way and I dont want to risk anyone who knows her finding out about it.
    Thank you to anyone who might be able to point me in the right direction for this info.
    Im just at a loss as to where to start looking or what would be relevant to him!


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  • #2
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    http://www.amen.ie/

    Tel: 046 90 23 718


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks Thaedydal, also has anyone here experienced this and successfully gotten either full or shared custody? I know the courts usually side with the mothers but wondering what the odds are given the circumstances!
    Thanks again for any help given


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yup I did.

    It is possible and I was an Amen client. They are practical and knowledgeable on the law.

    Overcoming the effects of the abuse does take time and expect the Court System to be used as a weapon. Don't under estimate this part and you will need support and help here because you will be stressed out.

    My kids are teenagers now and I have a great relationship with them now.

    Life was a bit more difficult and I had problems with relationships and other parts of life afterwards. Now my life is happier than its ever been with a g/f and new career even.

    I have had some contact with the ex - but really once the kids got old enough they got mobile phones and now its 16 months since I have even spoken to her. Then I do have court undertakings the equivalent of barring/protection orders given by her in court.

    The Irish Family Law System is pro-woman which is life. But if you are prepared you can get a result.


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