My flatmate is mean

LegacyUser

Im doing an internship abroad but they dont provide accomodation which meant i had to find my own. I got a room in a flat shared with a local girl and shes horrible. She was nice to start with but seems to hate me for no apparent reason. She has one rule for me and one for her for everything, she expects me to clean the shower right away after myself yet she leaves it full of hair and dirt, she tells me to wash my dishes and doesnt wash hers, she said she bought the washing machine so i cant use it and have to go to the laundry with my washing (!!) I want to move out but landlady wont give me deposit back as I signed for a certain time period. what can I do???

LegacyUser

I would go to the college doctor, get a note saying you are suffering from stress due to
the pressure in college, and living conditions. "now thats not exactly lying", bring the letter to the landlady say you have to move doctors order, and ask for the deposit back. terrible advice but sure worth a shot.

susieh wrote: »

Im doing an internship abroad but they dont provide accomodation which meant i had to find my own. I got a room in a flat shared with a local girl and shes horrible. She was nice to start with but seems to hate me for no apparent reason. She has one rule for me and one for her for everything, she expects me to clean the shower right away after myself yet she leaves it full of hair and dirt, she tells me to wash my dishes and doesnt wash hers, she said she bought the washing machine so i cant use it and have to go to the laundry with my washing (!!) I want to move out but landlady wont give me deposit back as I signed for a certain time period. what can I do???

Blazer

susieh wrote: »

Im doing an internship abroad but they dont provide accomodation which meant i had to find my own. I got a room in a flat shared with a local girl and shes horrible. She was nice to start with but seems to hate me for no apparent reason. She has one rule for me and one for her for everything, she expects me to clean the shower right away after myself yet she leaves it full of hair and dirt, she tells me to wash my dishes and doesnt wash hers, she said she bought the washing machine so i cant use it and have to go to the laundry with my washing (!!) I want to move out but landlady wont give me deposit back as I signed for a certain time period. what can I do???

Talk to your landlady and tell her what the other girl is putting you through.
Bought the washing machine my ass. She's putting you on.

LegacyUser

Put up and ignore it.Or move out. Living like that isn't worth the deposit.

holdmyhand?

be civil and respectful keep to yourslef....do everything your supposed to do clean your dishes/shower etc.... dont get into argurments.

i was in a really similar situation. like this girl was unreal.... i just kept to myslef and did my own thing. barely spoke to her. just stick it out and dont bother saying good bye when ya leave.

ps: taking her dirty dishes and stuff from the shower and leavin them in her room would do the trick. had to do this with a glass of milk she left sitting in the sink for 6 days. i put it on her bedside table.

LegacyUser

She did buy it, I checked with the landlady, who said if she doesnt want me to use it, theres nothing I can do. Shes siding with the flatmate, as shes been there over 3 years and im here just a short time

PurpleBerry

susieh wrote: »

Im doing an internship abroad but they dont provide accomodation which meant i had to find my own. I got a room in a flat shared with a local girl and shes horrible. She was nice to start with but seems to hate me for no apparent reason. She has one rule for me and one for her for everything, she expects me to clean the shower right away after myself yet she leaves it full of hair and dirt, she tells me to wash my dishes and doesnt wash hers, she said she bought the washing machine so i cant use it and have to go to the laundry with my washing (!!) I want to move out but landlady wont give me deposit back as I signed for a certain time period. what can I do???

Well, it would make sense to actually clean up after yourself without being asked. You should already be cleaning the shower straight after you use it, that's just common sense, and common courtesy.

You say that she leaves these things, well get on to her about them. If she's getting away with it she's not going to stop.

missmatty

Seriously is this not your third thread on this or something?

I was in a similar situation last year and i moved out.

Pub07

What does she say when you ask her why she can leave the shower or dishes in a mess yet when you do it theres a problem?

LegacyUser

Pub07 wrote: »

What does she say when you ask her why she can leave the shower or dishes in a mess yet when you do it theres a problem?

That shes been there longer and she cqan do what she wants.

cantdecide

I'm no expert here but isn't it true that despite any ad hoc agreements, legally, you are only obliged to give one months notice before you move out??

Dravokivich

D'pends, she said she was doing it abroad, never said if Ireland was abroad...

Pub07

susieh wrote: »

That shes been there longer and she cqan do what she wants.

Well next time she says that tell her it's complete and utter BS because as you are paying the same rent as her you have the exact same rights as her in relation to the house. And tell her to "f*ck off" aswell and stop being a total hypocrite.

syklops

Could this be part of a scam?

Landlady says you have to pay X deposit, and if you move out before the 6 months is up you dont get the deposit back.

Flatmate makes living there impossible so you move out.

Landlady gives flatmate a cut of your deposit and arranges for another sucker student to move in. Repeat and rinse.

Would have been a great scam to pull here a few years ago when there was a shortage of accomodation.

How did you find the flat OP? Can you find out about any of the other people who lived there previously, or how many there have been?

Doodee

just fight fire with fire.

If she doesn't do it then why should you.

You'll have to put up with a Few altercations but atleast you'll have teh satisfaction of annoying her somewhat.

That or do the keep to yourself thing.
get a lock for your bedroom also!

simon333

I'm sorry to make light of the situation, but I thought Google was funny:

Latchy

Google have no sense of occasion have they, always expoliting peoples situations ?

LegacyUser

That's pretty shocking about the washing machine but if she wants to be that anal then you should too. Find out the wattage of it and the time per month she has it on and subtract the cost of that electricity from your bill. If there are water charges where you are you could work out that cost too. If you really wanted to use her logic against her then calculate the percentage of the floor space the machine takes up and ask her to pay extra rent for it.

cafecolour

syklops wrote: »

Could this be part of a scam?

For some reason this occurred to me too, even if it's unlikely. You never know though, there are some dodgy landlords out there.

Find out the tenant's rights organization for your local area. http://www.threshold.ie/ is the one in Ireland.

Civilian_Target

Where abroad? Its always possible some boards.ie can help you out.

Overheal

susieh wrote: »

Im doing an internship abroad but they dont provide accomodation which meant i had to find my own. I got a room in a flat shared with a local girl and shes horrible. She was nice to start with but seems to hate me for no apparent reason. She has one rule for me and one for her for everything, she expects me to clean the shower right away after myself yet she leaves it full of hair and dirt, she tells me to wash my dishes and doesnt wash hers, she said she bought the washing machine so i cant use it and have to go to the laundry with my washing (!!) I want to move out but landlady wont give me deposit back as I signed for a certain time period. what can I do???

Are her rules in The Lease? No?

Then F*ck Her.

You only have to do what it says in the lease, and f*ck everything else. If it says no smoking, don't smoke. If it doesn't, and you have an asthmatic douche for a housemate, buy a cigar. imo.

The Sweeper

Ignore her rules. Don't do anything that means you break the lease, but ignore her rules. She'll complain to the landlady, who'll try to throw you out, so you tell her you'll leave if she refunds your deposit in full because she's breaking the lease agreement.

Overheal

And don't show off your cards dear. "Ha Ha my evil plan to work-to-rule on the lease!" No... just f*ck her rules in a calm non-chalant manner and don't blow your acecard till the landlady does something stupid like try and evict you for doing the polar opposite of what bitchface is currently up to. If she knows you're just going to work the lease to the letter she will use it against you by outing you if and when you do something in breach. I wouldnt just do the same to her either (hold her to the lease) because frankly this method is so much more enjoyable.

Joey the lips

susieh wrote: »

Im doing an internship abroad but they dont provide accomodation which meant i had to find my own. I got a room in a flat shared with a local girl and shes horrible. She was nice to start with but seems to hate me for no apparent reason. She has one rule for me and one for her for everything, she expects me to clean the shower right away after myself yet she leaves it full of hair and dirt, she tells me to wash my dishes and doesnt wash hers, she said she bought the washing machine so i cant use it and have to go to the laundry with my washing (!!) I want to move out but landlady wont give me deposit back as I signed for a certain time period. what can I do???

Get your own cup, plate etc and look after it. That will sort the dises problem. On the shower thing just clean it.

Tell the land lord your not happy with the arrangement and you will be moving out once your period is up. On the washing machineyou will hav to find a laundertte

It sounds to me like the land lord depends on this girl to rent so the girl thinks she has a bit of power. Bear in mind you could end up loosing your deposit cause she could say you done X of Y as such

I honestly would start looking for somewhere else... Life is not worth it and you are trying to study.

LegacyUser

OP is it possible she wants you to move out so tha her friend wants move in? Or she wants to live on her own? Either way she is in the wrong you have the same rights as her