Breakup, child involved

LegacyUser

Broke up last year with BF. We have a young son together. At start of relationship he made it clear he had cheated on previous girls he had been with. Soon I realised what he didnt seem to have had what I would have called a relationship before me. Mostly one night stands or friends with benefits.

We both fell for each other but he would regularly break up with me, disappear and then suddenly contact me begging for forgiveness telling me he loved me. Eventually he seemed to get his act together and I ended up pregnant, kept the baby with him promising me the world,

Well our son was only a few weeks old when I found out he had been on an internet site basically for hooking up for casual fun. Dont know if he met up with anyone from the site. He blew his top and told me it wasnt him that had been on it. He was so so angry I just let it go....... I also noticed he never mentioned in his facebook site that he was in a relationship.

He told me he wasnt happy, never told me why........... never told me what I was doing wrong. He also said he was bored,,,,, now our child was only a few months old.... What did he expect???? things to be exactly the same pre baby????

Eventually he left me.....(after treating me like **** for months and cheating on me) practically telling me to go away over the phone......

How do I move on when I have to see him several times a week??? our son has very serious health issues so lots of hospital visits with him there pretending to be daddy of the year..... Help.................

LegacyUser

My sympathies OP, I too am seperated with a child. I have zero relationship with my ex and he hasn't seen the child in months so I'm afriad I can't offer any advice on how you can deal with seeing him all the time. Does he really have to be at the appointments?

I will give you one piece of advice though, take any comments you get on here with a pinch of salt. I posted a thread a while back asking for advice, and I received some viscious comments.
Take care of you and your child. Do what is right for the both of you. xx

LegacyUser

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How do I move on when I have to see him several times a week??? our son has very serious health issues so lots of hospital visits with him there pretending to be daddy of the year..... Help.................

HI OP,

I seperated from my husband after nine years and for various reasons to do with the seperation agreement still see him several times a week.


I've gotten to the point that I only ever discuss what I need to with him, it's almost like a business thing, no real feelings involved but it took time to get there.

If I were you I'd try to focus on the real issue, i.e. your sick child and as much as you can, ignore his behaviour outside of that

It's not easy and it takes time.

Zaph

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I will give you one piece of advice though, take any comments you get on here with a pinch of salt. I posted a thread a while back asking for advice, and I received some viscious comments.

And as we always tell people here, if you have a particular problem with a post please use the report post button. There are too many posts for the mods to be able to see everything so we rely on reported posts to keep the forum running smoothly.