Finding it hard to meet women

LegacyUser

im a 28 year old male and finding it hard to meet women i go to night clubs and pubs but find its mostly a young crowd. Im not a bad looking guy own a house nice car and good job. also alot of my friends have moved away so id only get out once a month i would go out more but the friends i have are in relationships so they cant am i the only one with this problem

SarahSassy

Internet dating, salsa classes and yoga...

Bound to meet a woman at one of those.

LegacyUser

Hey Op
I have to console you in the fact that it's not just you that it happens to.
I am 27 and feel that the crowds on the night clubs and pubs scene are getting younger and younger by the day. Most of my friends are in relationships and getting married so like yourself it gets harder and harder to go for a night out.

I am going to join a few clubs like Salsa and that to see what the craic is like there,
Perhaps you should too join things that interest you and do a few night courses.
That's probably the way forward really if you're not prepared to try internet Dating which for me would be a last resort

holdmyhand?

its not a problem. its life!!!

just relax the more stress you put on yourslef the more pressure you will be under!!! just go with the flow........if you find a woman attractive anywhere.... the shops, starbucks etc smile say hi....

failing that boards is a good source of single girls........... what kind of car is it you have?!!!!

zxcvbnm1

speeddating is the answer man.
It's my answer anyway.

Just blitz it for a few weeks - and you'll definitely end up with a few dates after a few sessions of it.

honru

Sounds like you are dependent on your friends, so consider going out alone. It may be an experience you need to adapt to first, but at least you will not be at the mercy of your pals to meet new people in bars/clubs.

LegacyUser

Im in the same boat as yourself and if i do manage to get a girls no. nothing ever comes of it, niteclubs are a disaster for meeting women. I think try and make as many new friends as you can through sports etc. and you will get to no there friends ,maybe something good will come from all that. Best of look man

idontknowmyname

salsa classes would be great- full of women. I moved to a new city last year and made sure i joined a gym that had a huge social element to it- nights out etc. Met a good few people that way. A boards beers night is always good too Tennis clubs- any sports or fun things that women will be at...i wouldn't be all out for going to a bar on my own tbh.

LegacyUser

I'm not surprised you're finding it hard. I think the truth is that the majority of suitable women are actually taken by the age of 25. I'm not trolling or taking the piss btw, it's something I honestly believe. Most of my friends, which would be around the same age, are mostly in long-term serious relationships. I've no problem approaching women, and I think I'm a fairly confident guy; it's just finding one that's actually single and ticks all the right boxes can be quite difficult and frustrating.

I guess the best piece of advice is to approach as many women as possible from now on- you can never start too soon.

I'm 25 myself btw, and I recently posted a thread over on the other relationships forum about a girl I seriously fancied. http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055528088

Anyway, I approached her, but it turns out that she has a boyfriend, (or at least she said she has!)

salysol

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im a 28 year old male and finding it hard to meet women i go to night clubs and pubs but find its mostly a young crowd. Im not a bad looking guy own a house nice car and good job. also alot of my friends have moved away so id only get out once a month i would go out more but the friends i have are in relationships so they cant am i the only one with this problem

sounds like you need to break out on yer own,give your friends a miss ,and check out areas,such as coffee bars ,different pubs,etc,night clubs are a waste of time ,to meet someone.
i'll tell you how i met my wife,that might give you some incentive !,
i came over to ireland for a weekend break ,by myself,as luck would have it i was on a bus from the airport in the city ,when i saw this girl getting out of a parked car,i asked the driver to let me off ,i went back to her car but she was nowhere to be seen,so i scribbled a note,that said.
hi ,i spotted you from the bus,and i just had to meet my future wife,and put it on the windscreen,just as i put the wiper over the note ,this voice said are you giving me a ticket,and i told her the story,she read the note,and the rest is history.
be sure if you try it, to leave yer phone no.
you need to take the bull by the horns,


good luck

lolli

I always found pubs and clubs hard to meet people too. It happens but a lot of people are just looking to score.

I met my current bf online..... my exes are a mixture of meeting online & in pubs. I prefer online, easier to talk to people... but maybe thats just me

My brother is getting married soon to a girl he met through a dating website.

LegacyUser

Just because someone is single at 25, 30, 40 etc does not mean they aren't nice, maybe it was their previous partners that weren't the nice ones or just not appropriate long term!
I agree with everyone else, yoga, salsa, night classes of some sort, but I'm also going to suggest cinema. As a 28 year old female I often go to the cinema on my own in the hopes of meeting someone there (not specifically for that, but it would be a nice extra . Possibly sad, but I like the cinema, and I'd like to meet someone else who enjoys going and would like my company. If you like salsa I'm sure meeting someone else who likes to go to salsa on their own will be perfect for you! Just do something you like doing. This seems to be such a common problem with people at our age.. is it something to do with hitting 30?
Consequently I've never been successful meeting someone at the cinema, I think its the lack of interaction with people .. salsa may be better