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How to speed up her break up...!?

  • 31-03-2009 5:34pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    How to begin..I fancy a girl at college. I'm 29, she's 21. We get on well. She's really mature, I'm not. Tried to text her ages ago while very drunk, before I got to know her a bit better, ended in banter and then I sobered up and stopped. Then didnt really talk to her much til valentines and gave her a present she liked. Bit more banter, but word from her mates not great. Then recently found out the story with her.I thought she was broken up but it turns out she was on a break the time I was texting her, and valentines was fighting/struggling with getting back with him. Then now they're officially back but fighting on and off. Its a familiar pattern for me as I went through it before. He must have broken up with her and then started stringing her along, maybe even heard about the valentines gift and got back with her, so no-one else could have her kinda thing, so now he's struggling with the whole thing but is in a kind of denial which is why the fights are happening...ie.it's only a matter of time. Thing is if its him doing the damage then she won't get over it for a long time. This is, of course if she would even consider going out with me. I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice, anything I could do, gestures, etc, starting to panic as we only have about 3 weeks of college left and could possibly never see her again!


Comments

  • #2
    LadyE
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,021 ✭✭✭LadyE


    You cant.

    You have to let her do her own thing...of course you think he'll do emotional damange to her, thats because you want her! Speculation on why they got back together wont do you any good!! Just leave them be!!


  • #3
    dudara
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    Firstly, try breaking your post up into paragraphs. It's a fairly dense read as it stands.

    Secondly, don't interfere in any way with her relationship. If it has run its course, then it will end. If it does end, remember that she's going to be on the rebound, and may not want another relationship so quickly.


  • #4
    Rb
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,277 ✭✭✭✭Rb


    dudara wrote: »
    Firstly, try breaking your post up into paragraphs. It's a fairly dense read as it stands.

    Secondly, don't interfere in any way with her relationship. If it has run its course, then it will end. If it does end, remember that she's going to be on the rebound, and may not want another relationship so quickly.
    What Dudara said.

    It's not really any of your business tbh.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yeah, agree, just thought I was overlooking something with all my madness.
    Just gotta leave her be. Trying anything at this point would just make me look foolish, and anyway she knows I like her now so can't win. Oh well..


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