Will I hear from him again!

skii29

Hey

I met this guy through online dating. We had been chatting for a few weeks before we went on our first date last Thursdday. The first date was good and we got on well ( Well at least I think we did!) Shared a few laughs etc etc. I text him the text day ( I know FOOL!). He texted back straight away saying he had a good night, was tired but was heading out later. I didn't hear from him until I decided to text him yesterday ( 5 days after previous text). He texted back again to say he has been so busy with work, but that the busy period is nearly coming to an end. He said he's been working 20 hour days with Cattle which is a lie as he I've spotted him online over the past few days.
I'm just wondering. Do you think this guy is a bit of a player or is he just not interested? I was actually very surprised when he replied back to my last text. I'm not goign to text him again as it looks like I'm chasing him. Do you think that the fact that he is still online means he's not interested and is looking to meet someone else?

Thanks

Blue_Wolf

Eh ya well if you like someone you will text them. You initiated the texting so he's obviously not playing the take it cool game. You have sent him 2 texts and he has replied and that's it. I'm a bloke and if a girl did that and I was interested I wouldnt be leaving it for days. He mustn't be interested so you are right just leave it, let him test you if he's interested. Otherwise just move on and find someone else

star-pants

He could be very busy (even though you've seen him online) - I've had OH who've been online but not replied to my texts that I might have sent.
Guys are a bit different that way.

But I would give it a few days & if you don't hear from him leave it at that. As BlueWolf said - if he's interested he should text you.

MrMojoRising

if you met him online then chances are he's seeing / chatting to a few girls. Maybe thats what he really meant by being "busy"

Joey the lips

He could be busy or he could be avoiding you. You will never know. But for sure if you stalk him with texts he wont be back to you. Leave him to contct you for 2 -3 weeks anyway. Then if you have heard nothing send something like. "Havent heard from you in a while - hope your getting on ok. Any news!" Just small chat.

Best of luck!

LegacyUser

skii29 wrote: »

Hey


I'm just wondering. Do you think this guy is a bit of a player or is he just not interested? I was actually very surprised when he replied back to my last text. I'm not goign to text him again as it looks like I'm chasing him. Do you think that the fact that he is still online means he's not interested and is looking to meet someone else?

Thanks

I think he's just not that in to you! If he has time to be online he has time to call/text you and he hasn't. Move on and look for someone else.

However busy in our lives we are, if we really like somebody, we absolutely find time to contact them.

He didn't and he isn't....

Nitxteha

Relax, it was only a first date, no big deal.

Imagine you had not met him that day and act the same as before. Don't contact him again, give him the chance to chase you if he's interested. If you are into this dating online, keep enjoying it, let him wonder if YOU are chatting with other guys too.

I'm sure he'll contact you if he does not feel the pressure of you texting him. And if he doesn't.. "next please!"

Regarding him being busy, why not believing him?, he may be online after work to relax, you don't really know him, don't make assumptions.

BubbleWrap85

Hold on I'll just have a look into my crystal ball here.................

On a serious note, I'd leave it. Met my bf online and text him straight away after our first date and we were inseparable since. Some people don't like texting. Maybe that's it. Maybe he really was busy. Maybe he left his account logged in. I'd leave it. It's tough, but you've let him know you're interested so I'd just keep looking, and if he contacts you again, well and good. Don't fall too easily for people.

greatandgood

If you need to ask at this stage then the answer is a resounding 'no'.

Ignore previous advice to get in contact again even if you don't hear from him. Take the hint now and move on.