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Nervous meeting up with friends

  • 25-03-2009 6:32pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm posting this unreged because I'm paranoid, without any reason for it too.

    I don't know what happened but I have an idea why it happened.
    A friend died, I didn't take it too well my friends seemed to be able to handle it better, they have normal lives jobs, holidays, going out, buying houses and even getting married. I have a rented apartment full of dirty dishes, unwashed clothes on the floor and general rubbish thrown everywhere. Whenever it comes to meeting up with that group of friends (exp the one that I know the best) I just start getting nervous, paranoid and I don't know what to do, which results in me hiding in my unmade bed.

    A few days ago I met one of the friends(probably the one I'm most willing to talk to, me and him would have been closest to the friend that died). We were near his house so we went in but I felt really uneasy, his family were there and he kept talking about our other friends, if thinking about them gets me nervous talking is worse. I left feeling stupid.

    Now one of them is having a thing on their house, I got a text asking if I wanted to go telling me the time and who'll be there. The first text I got off them in months.

    I don't have as much of a problem meeting up with other friends and when I'm with them I relax quicker and easier.

    I know I have to sort out the other issues and I am but this thing is tonight a few hours away I need ways to calm down so I will go.

    The friend that I met up with a week ago has just rang me over something else but I'm suspect it was really to see was I going(which he asked), I also suspect he was talking to at least one other friend about me which resulted in the text. He knows me more than I thought.

    Anyway ways to relax and stop being nervous and paranoid?


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  • #2
    aare
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,579 ✭✭✭aare


    Grief is like a giant cold sore of the soul...

    It can surface in the strangest places and the strangest ways....and it is SO individual...

    It could be as simple as somewhere in the murk of your subconscious, the fact that if you see these friends, your dead friend is missing has got itself twisted into a notion that as long as you do not see them he won't really be gone...

    There might be no harm in looking into grief counselling? It is hard to lose "same age" friends when you are young...you really aaren't suppose to have to face that...life, and death, is no respecter of "supposed to".


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