Bunny boiler?

LegacyUser

guess i just need some perspective on the following..

i feel like the biggest bunny boiler in the world right now.

I've never had much luck with men, i guess i somehow manage to attract the wrong ones, a few one night stands, a few dates here and there, nothing even close to a relationship(i'm 24 btw).

Last summer i met a guy on a night out (from another country) and to my surprise he took my number, and we went on a few dates over the course of 3 weeks or so, anyway its the first time i've ever really connected with a guy, i cant explain it, i could just be myself around him, even when he kissed me i felt weak in the knees (i never thought that actually happened) , all he had to do was look at me and i melted, we slept together, and it was the most tender, caring experience of my life. I met him towards the end of his stay in this country so i knew it couldnt go anywhere (it was the first time ive ever felt that i could even be in a relationship:( )

anyway he left and i hear no more from him, (apart from a text to say he got home safely ) not that i was expecting to keep in contact i suppose, i knew i was never going to see him again , and for the next 2/3 months i was in pieces, i honestly thought i was going mad, i kept telling myself to cop on, i mean come on, holiday fling, i was only seeing the guy for 3 weeks for christ sake!! Eventually i manage to pull myself together and get over it.

so 8 months pass and out of the blue a get a very short text from him to say he hoped i was well, no effort to make conversation or anything.

and then i stuck his email address into a social networking site and lo and behold i found him and (against all reason) added him as a friend. So turns out he has a new girlfriend. I feel like crap.

Is it absolutely insane to be this hung up over a guy i was seeing for 3 weeks!!! ???
i feel like i need a kick up the a*se to be honest but i just cant get him out of my head, surely its lunacy to be actually crying over him?

i guess i just need to know if people can relate or if im just an insane bunny boiler?

Aprilsunshine

You should try to move past it. Think of it as a lovely experience that you'll always be grateful for but accept that it was a fling.

A real relationship isn't based on a three week whirlwind romance - it boils down to having similar values/interests/plans as well as initial attraction.

Anyway he is not interested in the same way you are or else he would have stayed or at least tried long distance.

While you are wrapped up in this memory you won't be open to meeting new people.

Time to let it go I think.

aare

Ok...

I guess I am old enough and tough enough to admit that I certainly CAN relate, without going unreg...

You are just learning a very awkward and inconvenient truth

...that you cannot control how you feel...

...but you CAN control what you do about it...


Please do not hop a plane and boil his bunny? The bunny doesn't deserve it, and it never works.;)

It will fade in time...not half soon enough, but it will...

You aren't crazy, you are perfectly normal...

Take care of you?

fmhickey

Obviously you felt a real connection with this person, its natural that you wont be happy that he is with someone else, even if you only knew him for 3 weeks.

I know its tough, but think of this as a learning experience.

I've been through a similar experience so i know what its like. I doesnt matter how short a relationship you have with someone, if the connection is there, its there, and its the same as when you see any old flame with someone else.

Hope this helps

cantdecide

It's hard when you're a bit love starved and anything that resembles a little companionship tenderness becomes something to get your clutches into. If it ain't going to happen, call that spade a spade and try to move on. There are tons of guys that would love to be with you, think about those guys...