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Need help to build confidence

  • 23-03-2009 2:42pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I know a lot of people are in the same or a similiar boat to mine. I'm unemployed and have been for a few months. It's been a huge dent to my confidence. I've tried not to let it be but it does seep through after a while. I feel bad for being on the dole, I also feel like I'm wasting my life away, not using my skills which I feel are also wasting away due to lack of practise. I don't feel like I have anything interesting to say, no job to talk about, no hobbies as I can't afford to do much.

    I'd love to get involved in something, something to concentrate some of my energy on, I don't have a lot of money but if it would help keep me sane I could budget something. I honestly feel worthless and less of a person than I did when I had a job and was contributing to society. If I did something to learn a new skill I know it would help me to feel better about myself and maybe if my confidence was even slightly lifted it would encourage me to improve other areas of my life.

    Something with a social aspect to it would probably help. I'm a shy person but these days I rarely see or talk to anyone except my partner. I would love to join some kind of club but I'd be worried that it would be very cliquey. I know most people tend to do these things in pairs or groups. If there was something like that but one where people tended to join on their own I would try that. Does anyone have any ideas? I tried volunteering before and might put my name down for it again. I'm sorry for going on. a bit. Thanks for reading.


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  • #2
    CSC
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    Try to get on to a FAS course to learn a new skill and meet some new people. Start exercising daily as this will help you feel better about yourself. I have never done volunteering but sure there are loads of opportunities to get involved in different things.


  • #3
    Cormb
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 77 ✭✭Cormb


    Lonely&NoJob wrote: »
    I know a lot of people are in the same or a similiar boat to mine. I'm unemployed and have been for a few months. It's been a huge dent to my confidence. I've tried not to let it be but it does seep through after a while. I feel bad for being on the dole, I also feel like I'm wasting my life away, not using my skills which I feel are also wasting away due to lack of practise. I don't feel like I have anything interesting to say, no job to talk about, no hobbies as I can't afford to do much.

    I'd love to get involved in something, something to concentrate some of my energy on, I don't have a lot of money but if it would help keep me sane I could budget something. I honestly feel worthless and less of a person than I did when I had a job and was contributing to society. If I did something to learn a new skill I know it would help me to feel better about myself and maybe if my confidence was even slightly lifted it would encourage me to improve other areas of my life.

    Something with a social aspect to it would probably help. I'm a shy person but these days I rarely see or talk to anyone except my partner. I would love to join some kind of club but I'd be worried that it would be very cliquey. I know most people tend to do these things in pairs or groups. If there was something like that but one where people tended to join on their own I would try that. Does anyone have any ideas? I tried volunteering before and might put my name down for it again. I'm sorry for going on. a bit. Thanks for reading.

    Hi OP,

    I'm sorry to hear about your situation.

    Have you considered doing voluntary work? e.g with a charity of some sort?
    I know it may not be ideal but it'll keep you occupied and go someway towards restoring your sense of confience.

    also you may be using your skills and developing new ones.


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