Why Do I Chicken Out??

LegacyUser

For the first time ever i'm going out tonight with a few people from work,
Basically over the last few years all my friends started going out to clubs,pub etc and i always made up an excuse not to go,now two years later they have the best time possible and i sit at home scratching my ass,feeling sorry for myself,

but i said enough and this time said ye i'll go this time,to the amazement of my friends

but the sad thing is that i don't know what to expect and now thinking of txting my friends and telling them i can't make it (Chickening out yet again)

i'm 19 btw

Ammunition_Magi

Have you any idea at all why you keep backing out?

Is it a self confidence thing?

Sometimes i would be nervous going out,but after a few drinks and a bit of banter i would normally get relaxed. You should head out man,experience it,your only young once... no point sitting at home feeling down when you could be out having a laugh.

Snowie

I dont know what to expect when i wake up each morning but i go out and do things.....

Go out and have soem fun, stop thinking...

Lolabugs

I had a baby when I was 18 and devoted my time towards the child.
I was pregnant when I turned 18 so didnt even go out for that.
Im 22 now and believe it or not the first time I went out after having her was last year.

Hadn't even gone to a pub and my friend suggested I go to a night club with her!!! :eek: I spent the whole night saying I wanted to go home and only spent a hour and a half in there.
I went out a few times after and every time I went out got more and more relaxed.

Just go out and enjoy yourself! Believe me it will get more and more easier and you'll find yourself ringing your friends to go out on weekends instead of them ringing you!!!!!!!!

As another poster said your only young once so go and enjoy yourself

poisonated

I agree.Im only 18 but as far as I know social anxiety is quite a common thing.the only way to beat it is to go out and get familiar with the scene.It is going to be hard at first but once you get used to it it will become easier and you will have a great time.Good luck!:D

LegacyUser

thanks guys,ye i have very low self confidence , which i'm trying to improve , and i'm sure the drinks will help lol getta little dutch courage,i'm going anyway,as you guys said i'm only young once

Lolabugs

Good on ya!!! Enjoy your night

Kenno90

good for you mate , just a warning expect a lot of drunk rugby fans lol
(soz i'm going off topic)

Well you say your 19 , but it doesn't matter what age you go start to go out, your going to be nervous the first few times , just relax and drink until that felling in your stomach goes away(and the felling in your bladder builds up:eek:)

Good luck tonight and lets us know how it went tomorrow , or later tonight if you can still coordinate your hands lol

Zaph

Kenno90 wrote: »

good 4 u m8 , just a warning expect a lot of drunk rugby fans lol
(soz i'm going off topic)

Kenno90, just for future reference we don't permit text speak on this forum.

Thanks

Zaph

Kenno90

Zaph wrote: »

Kenno90, just for future reference we don't permit text speak on this forum.

Thanks

Zaph

fixed and my apologies:D

Craft25

In your mind when you picture yourself going out and in a club, what are the images that bring up the fear? - talking to girls? ordering at the bar? getting into a fight? getting too drunk? having to make conversation?

Have you gone out before and had some sort of a disasterous night that has left you feeling like this?

Do you tell your friends how you feel about it? Or do you just keep turning down their offers? Perhaps if you tell someone you can trust they might look out for you in the night and stick close by you until you feel more comfortable?

If you can identify the moments that you have most fear of you can make a strategy so as not to be confronted by all your worst fears at once: say if you are afraid of talking to girls then you might sit right in the middle of your group of friends. That said you should try to take small steps to try and confront the things you are afraid of bit by bit aswell & that way you will start to let the fear go.

PS before you go out dont sit there dwelling on it - put some rockin music on or some dance or whatever you're into, open a couple of cans or a babycham, dance around a bit, have a sing & think positive about it - make yourself believe it's gonna be a great night!! & it will be, get into the spirit!!

injured365

Don't break the seal too early!!