Is he just too self centred?

Kate253

hi,

in a newish relationship. like the guy, still getting to know each other etc, etc. only been 6 weeks. however, my main reservation is that he doesn't ask me much info about myself. i'll ask how his weekend went and unless i (as i usually end up doing) tell him about mine, he won't ask! i ask him ****loads and would say i know much more about him, his family etc than he about me. is he not interested or is that just a male v female thing? i'd like him to be more interested in me. i've told him i'm on hols next week and he's not asked me what my plans are!

we have no problem chatting about all sorts of general stuff but it's the lack of personal interest in me that bugs me.

should i say it to him?

thenightrider

By the sounds of things he is just with you to be with a girl and does not want to be with you either that or he is just an ass

Kate253

hmmm.... that's what i was thinking. think i'll say it and if we don't split there and then, we will if the chat doesn't change things...

LegacyUser

Its not a male v female thing. Im with a girl about 2/3 months and I know far more about her than she does about me....I dont even think she knows my brother or sisters names or that I even have a brother for that fact where as I could even name her pets at this stage. Sometimes it may come across as not being as interested, I know it does for me when I ask how her weekend was etc and she just answers with no question back but I suppose people are different and some just dont ask as many questions.

Kate253

maybe you re right. i do tend to ask lots of q's and he seems surprised when i can relate back to info later and jokes that i actually do pay attention to him!!
i can be annoying though. i'd say he couldn't name one of my siblings and i knew all his by the third date i'd say.
would you ever say it to your girl?

LegacyUser

well at this stage im not too concerned, only been seeing her about 7 weeks i think and to be honest she is a little bit of a scatter brain (in an endearing way of course) so at the moment im just putting it down to thats just how she is. It just casual at the moment but if im still with her further down the line and it starts to become an issue for me than of course id say it to her and if its an issue for you now OP then you should probably address it.

LegacyUser

Remember someone saying to me that it's the little things that bother you at the start of a relationship which will end up being the reasons for ending the relationship. Definitely happened with me and my ex.
If it's an issue now, say it to him.. If not it'll keep bothering you and will get worse.

MeowXyz

I broke up with a boyfriend of 6 or 7 months tonight for the same reason I contemplated stopping seeing him 5 or 6 months ago!

You're already wondering what you're doing with this guy.

He's not the right guy for you!

star-pants

You can't force him to be interested in you/your life, but from my experience (lol not that it's been monumental) but if a guy really likes you, he'll want to know about you and your life. He'll want to know how your day went etc..
My last bf would always ask how I was/how my day went and was great at remembering bits of things I might have said to him. To me that makes the difference, really involving yourself and wanting to be.

It's up to yourself, but if he's bothering you already - perhaps he's not right for you.