Can't stop thinking about a friend

LegacyUser

I can't barely even think what to write because I start to day dream about him. Alright a bit of background, I have been having a really crap time for the past few years for a few different reasons. One of the consequences of the things that happened is I just didn't want a relationship or even have sex but, in the past few months that has changed, I want a guy but it's been 2 years since I had one. I have been going around thinking that I would like a guy but not attracted to any of them and not very bothered to even talk to any of them.

The friend I've known for somewhere between 5 and 7 years, he's kind and not the worse looking guy I know but he was never my type. I randomly met him afew days ago and went to his house. When I met him first I noticed he looked better than last time(I'm not going to say why, I don't want to be too weird, he just had three things different about him that just make a guy look better-not everyone would agree with me) We talked for a bit, most of which just made me feel really uncomfortable because to talk about them I would have to be talking about the crap time I was having and I didn't want to cry. Every thing else was normal, I went home not really thinking much about him but my the time I got in I could stop thinking about him.

If I got the chance with him I probably would but to date I really don't think he would suit me and I can't remember him ever having a proper relationship, I don't think he was ever too bothered.

The first guy I like in 2 years and it's him.

Overheal

so whats the problem?

LegacyUser

Overheal wrote: »

so whats the problem?

None really, he's not finding out about this and neither are any of my other friends, it'll just get back to him. The reason I've been feeling like crap is connected to reason why he would find it far too weird to do anything. I'm better off keeping my mouth shut but I did have to say it somewhere.

It's not bad, actually it's the one thing that making me grin stupidly. It's stupid really the first guy I like in a long time and nothing will happen.

sorrywhat

i still dont really get what the issue is here...

Overheal

why won't it happen? Do you want it to? Forget the embarrassment for a moment and just think if it was just about him and you, do you want it to.

star-pants

If you are genuinely interested in the guy & would like to pursue a possible relationship, then there's no harm in asking him out on a date, see how that goes?

lau1247

go for it.. nothing to lose

Miss Fluff

Unregistered wrote: »

It's not bad, actually it's the one thing that making me grin stupidly. It's stupid really the first guy I like in a long time and nothing will happen.

Your post is quite ambiguous OP. Why won't anything happen? I don't understand.

LegacyUser

lau1247 wrote: »

go for it.. nothing to lose

I've a friend to lose

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Your post is quite ambiguous OP. Why won't anything happen? I don't understand.

Well, we would both be thinking of someone else, I would probably end up starting to cry, most likely them he would start aswell which would make me worse. He looked really good that day but it's fairly pointless.

I've got a much bigger issue but I'm trying to sort that out. After trying to sort things out for ages I finally decided I was ready to date again so, I was keeping an eye out but there were no interesting guys until I saw him. I've known him for long enough now that I love him, was never attracted to him until now, I'm hoping that part will go away. I don't want to mess everything up, there already messed up enough.

darkus

Unregistered wrote: »

I've a friend to lose

How can you be sure of that ? He may or may not have feelings for you in that way but even if he doesn't, it may not ruin your friendship. I was in a similar situation although i didn't have the same feelings for her our friendship is still intact. I say meet up with him a talk about the situation.